September 07 mamas Giving Thanks - Page 2

[~Katie~]

Wow, MommaJB, you go, mama!

Falicia - I know what you mean, it felt so strange when Liam moved in to his own room. It feels really weird because I was used to him kicking me and poking me all night, but he did really well with it for the most part when he wasn't in horrific teething pain. It does help to set your mind at ease because it tells you what a great job you've done in making them feel secure about it.

Thank you all for the hugs. I really, really needed them. I'm just so hurt by all of it, I don't understand it. I don't understand why this type of sentiment toward others is okay. I don't know how to just keep my big mouth shut, I've never known how to, and inevitably I end out getting pushed out of groups because of it. It's not just being a liberal Army wife, it's being connected ethnically to the group they're targeting with their hateful words. I learned long ago to try and be as anonymous as possible about it but I just couldn't be quiet this time.

[SweetTexasgal]

Mommajb!!! Way to go.

Katie-I just don't know why people can't see past their own way of thinking. Live and let live ya know...I am sorry for the drama.

Lucy has been a motor mouth lately. It is literally from the moment she wakes up until her eyes close at night. When she turns over and wakes at night I get a "Hi Mama....How you doin?" I tell her "Mama is sleeping...how are you?" She says "I fine!" and rolls back over and goes back to sleep.

She did amazingly well with the weaning because of the meds I was on. I am all for her to pick nursing back up if she wants, but all she seems to want to do is "I touch...Boo-boo all done...I touch."

[mommajb]

Thanks for all the applause. I can't toot my horn IRL, the closest I can come is wearing my race shirts to parent-teacher conferences.

Michelle, Lucy sounds as cute as her photo. I'm glad you are both doing okay.

I need (want) to bake for a meeting tomorrow but dh has begun a long, involved, messy project (snickerdoodles) in the kitchen with the kids on a school night. Enough said there.

FG, I only ran during one of my pregnancies (#2) and I probably should not have. Each woman is different and each pregnancy is different. Some days I really wish dh would run with me so we could have that in common. It is never going to happen, he has no interest. This is good as it means we don't argue over who gets the time to run (or who has to push the jogger).

Katie, I need similar thinking community IRL. The stars must be aligned all wrong because it has been a tough autumn for me in those regards. I don't know wher I am going with this....

[~Katie~]

They're misaligned for me too then. This whole thing has put me in a funk. One good thing with the military is I know we won't be here forever....Just until August 2011

In other news, Laine has become a wicked sleep fighter. Normally she goes to sleep so easily. Liam and I are having some discipline issues, nothing new there. He hurt Laine twice today, the first time being accidental, the second time he threw his sippy cup at her.

My neighbor asked me a strange question today. She asked if I found that with Andrew gone I had to do any typical husband jobs around the house. My first thought was "Well yeah, I have to do EVERYTHING around the house". My second thought was "What "typical" man job exists that a woman wouldn't be able to do". Maybe I misunderstood the question but I answered with "My husband isn't handy so I'm the handyman, he doesn't cook because he would burn down the house, he cleans when I ask him to, and he parents 50/50 with me most of the time." That answer seemed to satisfy.

[mrsb422]

mommajb I can’t believe how much running you do You’re amazing! Sorry about the “friend” drama…hope it resolves itself easily

Faliciagayle Thanks for the ideas I have tried adding magnesium with no help unfortunately. As for wheat…that sounds really tough. I’ll definitely consider it though. Thanks mama Congratulations to C and to you on your new nighttime hobbies…I hope the transition stays easy

Michelle I’m so glad it’s going easily with Lucy. Marty is a motor mouth too and sometimes it is just maddening!! I told him this morning to stop talking because his father was sleeping and he told me “I can’t Mommy! I can’t!” I almost laughed, but literally bit my tongue so I didn’t. He NEVER stops and if you ask him to speak softer (he’s very loud) he just starts yelling

Katie Did you ever hear from Andrew? I’ve been thinking about you and hoping he’d call. I hope you’ve heard from him. I don’t know what a “typical husband job” is either. I cook and do the laundry, but DH vacuums and dusts…I don’t get it.

I feel like poopy today. My throat is killing me, I’m exhausted, and DS (who also is under the weather) is acting like he drank a whole pot of coffee. We stayed home today because he literally told me he didn’t feel good (never says that) and was up a lot of the night crying and coughing. Now he’s running around like the Tazmanian devil and screaming half the time at the top of his lungs. We’re off tomorrow for Veteran’s day…I don’t know how to do 48 hours like this. I’m so on my last nerve and ounce of energy!!

I need to find us a project or something constructive to do that won’t zap me out of energy completely but will use up some of his!! He refuses to nap for me anymore but when he crashes, WATCH OUT!! How did it get like this???

[ishyfishie]

I feel like drama is suddenly taking over lately. My local forum settled down, but now I'm getting ready to cut out a toxic family member who's finally given me an excuse. I know a lot of the threads on MDC say not to contact the person to tell them you're cutting them out, but I really feel it's necessary this time because this person has done this for years, where another member cuts them out and then she comes crawling back and they let her back in, and I'm not doing that. I want her to realize this is more than a "spat." Does that make sense? I've edited this darn email over and over, and have removed the mean things I said out of spite, so I feel like it's a pretty straight-forward "Here's why I can't trust you to be involved with our family."

BLECH! On a positive note, we're having beautiful, unseasonable weather here in Buffalo! We got to play on a playground and go for a nice walk on Sunday, yesterday we went to the zoo, and today we have our "Vegan Lunch Club" gathering at a friend's house and it's nice enough for the kids to play outside. I have an appointment with my midwife tonight and for some reason, I feel like I have a dozen questions/things to talk about with her that suddenly popped up, even though I have plenty of time to talk about them at future appointments...they're on my mind so I figure I might as well ask her now before I forget!

[~Katie~]

Maybe my stars are re-aligning. I just got a letter in the mail today from housing saying that we've been selected for an optional move to 4 bedroom houses in a gated community off post. The move is optional now and we can stay in this house indefinitely, but eventually it will all be turned over the junior enlisted families. They're going to call me within the next 10 days to start making arrangements, things usually move quick when they want something done. I really hope we get in by Thanksgiving.

[~Katie~]

mrsb - We talked last night and the day before, finally. I guess he took over for someone else and has been running the big show so he hasn't had a chance to call or email very often.

[mommajb]

They are realigning! Today at LLL I found out that one of the women is here at mdc and she is lovely!

[~Katie~]

Originally Posted by mommajb

They are realigning! Today at LLL I found out that one of the women is here at mdc and she is lovely!

Yeah, that is awesome news!

[mrsb422]

Rachel You’re definitely right to ask before you forget!! Write the questions down too I constantly blank out when I get to the doc and can’t remember a darn thing! As for your family member, toxicity is toxicity no matter if it’s related to you or not and you DON’T need that in your life. Follow your instincts – you’re doing the right thing

Katie I’m so excited for your new housing opportunity. I looked at the photo on FB – it looks gorgeous. I hope it is an easy move (not that moving is ever easy)! I’m so glad you finally got to talk to Andrew. You must have been worried.

So I figured out the craziest thing today…

If you put out healthy snacks, people actually EAT THEM!! I bought a bunch of fruit in bulk at Costco and left it on the counter because I didn’t have room in my fridge for the big containers. DS kept running in with strawberries since he could get them himself and then started bringing me clementines and kiwis to peel/cut for him. Amazing! Of course now he has the runs but it is so much better than munchkins, fruit snacks, and the usual junk!!

On a not as nice note…I feel worse if that’s possible. I’m getting really blue about this pregnancy. I don’t understand why everything is so miserable (mainly my health). I mean I’m not in some sort of critical situation, but I feel horrible ALL the time. I just feel like it isn’t fair and I can’t even have a margarita in my pity party. I tried to talk to DH about it earlier today and he was at work, he called to check in, and didn’t really have time/want to listen which just annoyed me. I’m frustrated at my OB too because our insurance company sent this booklet about being pregnant and taking care of your health. Granted, I gleaned it because I was curious but didn’t really care what they had to say. In the list of “When it’s time to call your doctor…” symptoms was “unusually severe headaches accompanied by visual disturbances.” HELLO??!! So glad his big answer was “I think you need to go back to your neurologist”. I was watching “A Baby Story” today too (I know, always a bad idea) and this woman that was having triplets was having the same problem – her blood pressure was too high and they had her on magnesium sulfate. I’ve been taking magnesium and still having these problems so IDK what the heck is going on. I just would like answers, a solution, and to be able to enjoy this pregnancy I feel so disconnected from this baby and so much anger/anxiety about the whole thing.

Sorry to vent mamas…I just needed to get that out since clearly no one else has time to listen.

[SweetTexasgal]

Oh Jess.... Mama. I wish it could be an IRL hug and that I could come and watch the kiddos play while you had a cup of tea and put your feet up. I am so sorry that you are not feeling well.

[mrsb422]

Thanks Michelle I just feel really scared of everything and like no one is taking me seriously. DH and I had a long chat about it last night and he started yelling at me. I know he wasn't yelling AT me, he's just frustrated, but of course I started to cry. I just don't know what to do. I haven't been to the neuro in 3 years so it is kind of hard to call up and say "this is really important - you need to see me NOW!" If I get the visual disturbances again, DH says I have to go to the ER. I guess I probably should have done that in the first place. I'm sure I'm probably just overreacting, but I just feel so powerless. I have no idea what's going on in my head or if it's something bigger than that...would be nice to get some answers.

[Plaid Leopard]

mrsb -
Can you take a couple of days off work and just rest and relax?
I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Maybe you should write down all of the the symptoms you are having and demand that your OB take it seriously. Tell him/her that you need help, that you know that SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT!
Even if it turns out to be "normal" or "nothing" at least you will have the peace of mind that everything has been considered.

[mrsb422]

Plaid - I've been off so many days recently from being sick between the migraines, sinus infection, and the sneezy/stuffy/sore throat crap that I have going on right now I'd love to take a few days off just to rest, but I also have to conserve my sick leave so I don't run out during maternity leave. I'm feeling a lot better today though

I don't know if anyone read Peggy O'Mara's artical about the whole fear and swine flu thing in the latest magazine?? I thought it was wonderful. I think it can apply to everything, not just swine flu. I'm trying to take that perspective when dealing with this and it isn't preeclampsia which is really my worry. If I do get another vision problem, I will go to the ER, hopefully the one my doc works out of, and get this all straightened out. If not, then I'm sure Thursday the 19th will be here before I know it and I'll get to talk to the neuro then.

Am I crazy?? I'm trying not to let the fear run my life but that's really hard. I have a hair appointment tonight - cut AND color for the first time in at least 4 months I'm so exciting and just hoping I get to enjoy it!! It's not until 6 pm so I'm sure it's going to be a late night and I hope that the headlights driving home don't trigger my stupid head.

Gotta go take the crackers away from my son before he completely covers our livingroom floor in crumbs....

[leanbh]

and....here i am!

can i be welcomed back with open arms even though i've been out of the loop for-flippin-ever?

what of course has brought me back to MDC after lurking for so long... but a

(facebook friends...we are NOT public yet!!!!!!)

so between being exhausted constantly, and trying desperately to find a house to buy... i've been chasing roisin. i still can't believe she's two years old sometimes.

my husband got a job in waltham, ma, and so we're trying to move closer to his work as we now live in RI. the commute is a real witch of a thing. it cuts down on his time with us immensely.

otherwise, we try hard not to complain. lookin forward to late july of next year and teaching roro how to say 'big sister'.

[Faliciagayle]

Hi Leanbh! Congratulations!! Don't be a stranger

[ishyfishie]

Originally Posted by leanbh

and....here i am!

can i be welcomed back with open arms even though i've been out of the loop for-flippin-ever?

what of course has brought me back to MDC after lurking for so long... but a

(facebook friends...we are NOT public yet!!!!!!)

so between being exhausted constantly, and trying desperately to find a house to buy... i've been chasing roisin. i still can't believe she's two years old sometimes.

my husband got a job in waltham, ma, and so we're trying to move closer to his work as we now live in RI. the commute is a real witch of a thing. it cuts down on his time with us immensely.

otherwise, we try hard not to complain. lookin forward to late july of next year and teaching roro how to say 'big sister'.

YEEEEEHAW! Congratulations!!! And I GUESS you can come back, even if you abandoned us to, you know, take care of your family and all that. Good luck with the house-hunting, I hope you guys find something perfect that's a better commute for him!

mrsb: I'm so sorry you're dealing with pain/illness. I hope you can find some answers to fix the problem!

Appointment: My appointment last night was fantastic, aside from Lucy having a total meltdown once it came time to check my blood pressure, lol. That always sets her off for some reason, but she was also out of sorts and exhausted yesterday so it was significantly worse than usual. Anyway, I wrote down all my random questions/thoughts and we talked about them and I feel even better about everything. Midwife said her transfer rate for second vaginal births is 2 in 150 with ZERO c-sections, so that alleviated a lot of my "omg what about a transfer?" fears. I really my midwife! Lucy likes her, too, just not the "exam" (which is literally BP and heartbeat, lol). Poor kid, stupid allergy testing traumas. But I'm super excited and we only have FIVE more visits to take us to 37 weeks, then one a week depending on when baby comes (which for Lucy was 38 weeks, so I want to be prepared for "early" even though I won't count on it). Overall, just really happy that this pregnancy has been so different from Lucy's and that the birth looks to be totally different from hers as well!

[Plaid Leopard]

wow leanbh!!!! Congratulations and good luck with everything.

ishy - glad you had a good appt.

mommajb - I'm amazed at your running abilities!

Katie- great news about the house

Sweettexas- glad all is well.

hi faliciagayle!

mrsb - glad you are feeling better today. Enjoy your salon time!

Seems strange not being pregnant with all you pg mamas and new babies around. It just seems like I should be pg too

DH is applying for new jobs. We may be moving again by next summer. Not sure how I feel about that.

[~Katie~]

Congratulations Lindsay!

I agree with everyone else, mrsb, hope you're feeling better soon.

I am so excited that baby time is so close for everyone! Seems like just yesterday that Laine was born, it's going by so fast this time around. Hard to believe that she'll be 6 months old next week. One thing that makes me really sad about moving is that we're leaving the house she was born in

I weighed and measured her today and she's 15.4lbs. and 28 inches long. So average for weight and in the 100th percentile for length. She just went through a growth spurt but I'm really hoping she slows down with the height so that she can chunk up a bit more.