September 07 mamas Giving Thanks - Page 3

[Faliciagayle]

Hi Plaid!



I am feeling totally unable to make a decision regarding something pretty trivial but I need your help

Both sets of parents (and my sister) are coming to our little abode for thanksgiving. I had been planning on cooking, but my mom and DH suggested buying from a catering place. Probably not too much more money than cooking everything myself but I will have no control over the ingredients. Infinitely more convenient...

I dunno. What would you do?

[~Katie~]

You still have some time to call around and find a place that will suit your needs or to find a restaurant that can. I would do that before committing to purchasing everything for T-day.

Originally Posted by Faliciagayle

Hi Plaid!



I am feeling totally unable to make a decision regarding something pretty trivial but I need your help

Both sets of parents (and my sister) are coming to our little abode for thanksgiving. I had been planning on cooking, but my mom and DH suggested buying from a catering place. Probably not too much more money than cooking everything myself but I will have no control over the ingredients. Infinitely more convenient...

I dunno. What would you do?

[Plaid Leopard]

Perhaps order a few things from a caterer, and cook certain things whose ingredients are harder to control...

[sunshine's mama]

hi and hugs.

i'll be back later on. gotta get lilah put back to bed bc she's suddenly awake and unhappy. she's been pretty sick so......

bbs

[SweetTexasgal]

Well I have a sickie one too. She :Puke Tuesday night a few times and then once on Wednesday...was fine yesterday, but then started up again last night. She might have a low-grade fever that comes and goes, but other then that she looks and feels pretty good. So I am at a loss...I guess it is just a stomache bug. At least she nursed this morning for the first time in 2 weeks...so I hope that helps.

Alicia-I agree, I think a combo of cooking and buying might work best. Cook those things that you really want to control the ingredients on.

Leanbh-Congratulations!!

[mrsb422]

leanbh Our arms are always open mama on your new bean!! Congratulations

Rachel Sounds like your appointment was wonderful. Those are excellent stats! So happy for you

Plaid on possibly moving. I really want to move, but when I think about all the work involved I change my mind

Katie Sounds like you’ve got a very healthy little girl on your hands

Faliciagayle IMHO I would buy from the catering place if it’d make your life easier. I know that I would be doing that this year if I wouldn’t be judged for it for the rest of my life . I’m betting it would probably be cheaper…at least for me. I always go broke buying groceries for turkey day and that’s with letting people bring stuff too! You’ve gotta’ do what’s right for you though, whatever makes your life easier.

Michelle & Gia to your sick LO’s. Hope they both get better soon!!

Thanks everyone for your well wishes – they mean more than I can say. Today is a better day though I am knock-down drag-out tired! We got new living room furniture this morning and after rearranging it twice (yeah, yeah, I know I shouldn’t be doing that) I *think* I’m finally satisfied with the new layout. It’s much bigger than our old set, so I’m still getting used to it. It’s pretty though and CLEAN!! DS successfully gave the last one a faint urine odor that this one thankfully doesn’t have So gross!!

DS has been saying “I can’t” in response to just about everything. I’m going to LOSE IT!!! If I ask him why not he just repeats “I can’t! I can’t!” I finally told him if he said it again I was giving him a time out. After about 5 of them, I gave up but every time he said it I asked him to repeat himself and told him we don’t say that in our house. Where on earth did that come from?? I am going to kill myself…he says it in response to EVERYTHING!!! Save me

[sunshine's mama]

I need prayers, positive light, anything you can send

i can't explain why i need this right now but i need all that you can muster.

EVERYTHING.

I'm sorry to jet in and leave like this but I really can't explain anything until Thursday bc I can't even begin to wrap my head around what is happening.

I know, it's cryptic and I'm sorry. I really am.

But I need them. More than any other time in my life. I need them.

Much

[~Katie~]

Originally Posted by sunshine's mama

i can't explain why i need this right now but i need all that you can muster.

EVERYTHING.

I'm sorry to jet in and leave like this but I really can't explain anything until Thursday bc I can't even begin to wrap my head around what is happening.

I know, it's cryptic and I'm sorry. I really am.

But I need them. More than any other time in my life. I need them.

Much

Sending lots of positive vibes and prayers!

[leanbh]

Originally Posted by sunshine's mama

i can't explain why i need this right now but i need all that you can muster.

EVERYTHING.

I'm sorry to jet in and leave like this but I really can't explain anything until Thursday bc I can't even begin to wrap my head around what is happening.

I know, it's cryptic and I'm sorry. I really am.

But I need them. More than any other time in my life. I need them.

Much

hugs and love.

[sunshine's mama]

thank you.



message katie on FB for any details if you'd like them.

[Plaid Leopard]

Hugs and love and light to you Sunshine's mama.

[ishyfishie]

Originally Posted by Plaid Leopard

Hugs and love and light to you Sunshine's mama.

Ditto this, hun!

[Faliciagayle]

big hugs, love and prayers to you, Sunshine

[leanbh]

[SweetTexasgal]

:g oodvibes

Lots of hugs and prayers being sent your way Sunshine

[mommajb]

sunshine

[Faliciagayle]

mommajb - re: your siggy = super excellent! way to go

[mrsb422]

Can't stop thinking about Sunshine...I can't imagine. Gia, if you log in just know we're all thinking about you, sending our love, and hoping beyond all hope that things fix themselves. You're a wonderful mama and we all know that. to you

[~Katie~]

Hehe @ Falicia - I just realized the other day that I've been calling someone by the wrong name for the last 2 months

Thinking of you, Sunshine.

[sunshine's mama]

thank you.

i feel so empty today. my eyes are so swollen from crying this morning. i was up for 38 hours and my body finally gave up around 11pm and i slept until my friend woke me up with her shoes on her hardwood floor at 645. lol. i couldn't sleep before bc every single time i close my eyes waves of numbness would start at my head and go to my toes. it was the oddest feeling. and i would see 2 little girls in the dark, lost, crying, confused.

how could he do this? why would he do this? i just don't understand. i barely recognize who this man is. it's like a stranger has overtaken and that's that.

i can't believe how INCREDIBLY easy it is for someone to walk into a courthouse, say this or that and WHAMO.....it shouldn't be that easy.

what is he telling the girls bc the novelty for dd1 that i am not there being "mean" (her term for me telling/asking her to do things....) has had to have worn off by now.

where is mommy?
is mommy coming back?
why did she go?
does she miss me?
does she love me?

and i haven't a clue of what he is filling her/their heads with.

thank god lilah is too young to understand. she knows something is very wrong. she has too. she has never spent a night away from me. she sleeps curled into me with her head on my upper arm and her arms wrapped around my arm and her feet against my belly. everynight for 26 1/2 months.

how can he do this to them?

however, i am blessed with something he isn't.......friends. close friends, loved friends, aquanitances (can't spell today).....with an outpouring of love and support. he doesn't have that. he has a handful of friends he sees on a regular basis and some friends from high school he chats with on FB that i have never met so they only know what he says about me and 2 of the WOMEN are happy he's done this.

his status on Friday night, 5 hours after everything turned upside down was:

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!

seriously??? gloating? that's what i took it to mean.

so, my next step is the hearing on thursday. i *may* get to see the girls this week before then for an hour supervised.....it's surreal. i'm in a dream i can't wake up from. will they come running to me or will they be shy bc they haven't seen me in 3 or 4 days? will they be angry? will they cry? will that hour go by in a blink?

so, a hearing. my lawyer is hoping for a deposition bc that will force dp to sit across from him at a table and look at him closely and spout off his insaneness. and then i can counter at my deposition with my things, the drinking, the leaving the girls in the house alone while i am at work and he is in the garage, his complete disregard for me......i am not an ugly person and i don't know if i can go down the ugly path that has been brought before me.

i just don't know. i can only hope and pray that whatever his "evidence" is against me, the courts look at it as bullcrap. they look at it as, "ok, maybe she does yell a bit too much but maybe that just means she needs help. a break. some support. but she is not a danger to the girls."

hope and a prayer.

nobody is telling me what happens if the worst happens bc they are so positive that it won't but i need to know. hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

regardless, we are really over this time. this has left me without income as i can't run a daycare business in my friends house and my clients are all now 20 minutes away. he knew this. which makes it even worse.


i'll leave this up for a bit and then i'll come back and edit appropriatly...

hugs to you and please hug all the little ones extra tight for me today as often as possible. even if you get the mawwwwwwmmmmmm!

i'm sorry for all the shelfish posts right now. i love you guys.