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post #41 of 55
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Originally posted by Plady
Hey Nikki Christina,

I don't think I deserve the attitude for admitting to having a thought. Like I said before, I'm sorry so many people had such violent experiences with this. Based on my own experience I don't think it is necessarily always so abusive. I also didn't say I thought it was a good idea.
Having thought police like you on the boards could really inhibit the level of honesty in the posts, and where would that get anyone?
Penelope-

With all due respect - conversely, it is Nikki Christina's right to react negatively to YOUR post, too....she was just being honest, like you were. Calling her the "thought police" is very disrespectful of her opinions.

JMO.
post #42 of 55
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I had my mouth washed out with soap once and that was by a friends mom. My friend got mad at me, bit her arm and then went and told her mother that I bit her. We were only 3 and 4 at the time. He mom refused to listen to me when I said I did not do it, and gave me the choice between appologising and having my mouth washed out. I of course said I didn't do it, and I was not going to say sorry for something I did not do.
*That* would be my little sister. She constantly bit herself and then got me in trouble for it (I was "the liar" . Anyway, I finally went into my bedroom and tried to knock my teeth out on the edge of my desk. Didn't work so I got a hammer. Between the desk and the hammer I got my two front teeth out (no idea how old I was, but obviously young enough to still have only baby teeth). The next time my sister did that, I bit myself on the arm and showed my parents how the bite marks looked different. So *that* ended :

I definatley had my mouth washed out with soap. As did my siblings (ages 24-43). As have some of my nieces & nephews. I never would, but honestly compared to the screwed up parenting practices out there this doesn't even register on my radar.
post #43 of 55
Quote:
Originally posted by Plady
Hey Nikki Christina,

I don't think I deserve the attitude for admitting to having a thought. Like I said before, I'm sorry so many people had such violent experiences with this. Based on my own experience I don't think it is necessarily always so abusive. I also didn't say I thought it was a good idea.
Having thought police like you on the boards could really inhibit the level of honesty in the posts, and where would that get anyone?
you didnt say it was a bad idea either.. just one you had considered.. but *doubt* you will have to use :
& yuppers I think its abuse & think its disturbing someone would consider doing it

did you forget what board you are on??
post #44 of 55
I got my mouth washed out with soap many times for "cussing," which I never understood cause both my parents swore heavily, and right in front of me. I made up my mind that I would never do that to my kids ! So now my boys both "cuss" once in awhile in front of me and do not get punished. I would much rather just teach them when its ok to use language like that and when its "improper" (they actually seem to already know that...they cuss at home but not at school/ day care/ grandparents house, etc.). I figure they'll end up swearing someday anyway, so why worry too much ? I think this is much better than abusing a kid with soap in the mouth.
post #45 of 55
I asked DH if he had had his mouth washed out with soap (he was spanked maybe once and his parents were pretty GD). He said twice. But that his mom waited until he was too old--- both times he took a *BITE* of the soap and chewed it up and swallowed while staring her in the eyes. She gave up after that. :LOL
post #46 of 55
Just posting to remind everybody that attacking members in your posts is against the rules...

If anybody has any problems with a post, please bring it to my attention rather than post to the thread about it.

thanks!
post #47 of 55
My grandma did this to me once. I remember it was bar soap.

Poor grandma- she had her share of problems and wasn't perfect by any measure, but other than the "soap episode" she was fantastic to me.
post #48 of 55
I never had my mouth washed out with soap. I asked my husband, too, since he was subjected to lots of strange, humiliating child-rearing practices from his step-mom, but she missed that one. So, nope for us.
I remember it coming up several times from adults, but my mother somehow communicated to me that that was never going to happen to me.

I *think* it could probably be used in a humiliating OR a non-humiliating way, just like spanking or time-out or grounding or CIO or anything. But I wouldn't have it in my arsenal, 'cause I don't need it. Attitude is more important than technique.
post #49 of 55
funny the things that move me out of lurkdom to post here...

...a couple of years ago, my sister tells me about my nephew, 5 at the time, working on his homework in the dining room with his siblings; she peeks around the corner in time to hear him say, "damn! how do you make a three?" she says, "so i yanked him out of his chair, dragged him into the bathroom by his arm, took a couple of pumps of that antibacterial handsoap and shoved it in his mouth! he was gagging and crying and he threw up -- he'll never say that again!" she was actually laughing while telling me this story, it was so horrible; i told her i thought it was abusive and she was mortified, claiming that, "when you have kids, you'll see."

it was never done to me, but i felt really bad for my nephew. and what do you know? now that i have a child, i can honestly say that i will never do it to him.
post #50 of 55
It was not done to me or my siblings. My mom had it done to her though. And I will not ever do it to my kids.

My son willing eats soap!! We have to hide glycerin soap or bubbles because he likes the taste :Puke, I caught him tasting it in the bathroom once. It actually concerns me a bit...

s to anyone that had that done as a child, how awful .
post #51 of 55
I had this done to me also. Maybe 6 or 7 times. Once for sticking my tongue out at a friend while we where playing and she did it to me too. My mother thought I had done it to her. (Go figure??) Anyway, she never let me explain, so there you go.
It was always racked across my teeth so it stuck in them and took forever to get out. Then I was spanked and sent to my room. Real nice parenting technique!

I have a "friend" (not really close to her now) how use to use tobassco and soap in her dds mouth if she got "sassy". My niece also uses pepper or some kind of hot sauce in her 3 dd's mouths if they "talk back". It makes me sick to even think about it.

I wouldn't do it to my kids. Besides it being just palin mean IT'S GROSS!


H
post #52 of 55
My grandma did this to me when I was about five. I can't remember what I did, just the taste of soap...

It's funny, I remember flipping my dad off at the dinner table (I rode the bus with highschoolers in kindegarten) and he asked me what I thought it meant. I honestly had no idea, and he told me it meant 'intercourse' I still had no idea what it meant, but was mortified, and probably didn't flip anyone off again.

And whatever I said to my grandma that made her wash my mouth out, I'm sure I've said it since.
post #53 of 55
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Originally posted by andrea88
My father did the same, but used the pumice soap.
When I read that my hand flew up automatically to protect my mouth.

I never had it done to me... I just got spanked. : I saw it done to my cousin though and it looked awful. I would never ever do anything like that to my child.
post #54 of 55
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Originally posted by TiredX2
Anyway, I finally went into my bedroom and tried to knock my teeth out on the edge of my desk. Didn't work so I got a hammer. Between the desk and the hammer I got my two front teeth out (no idea how old I was, but obviously young enough to still have only baby teeth). The next time my sister did that, I bit myself on the arm and showed my parents how the bite marks looked different. So *that* ended :
Oh my God, that is so horrible. I don't know how you did that but I could just cry thinking of the desperation that could drive a child to cause themselves that much pain.

post #55 of 55
I had my mouth washed out and I found it truly revolting.

My sister does it with her oldest son (3 1/2) and it KILLS me.

she does it it he gets out of bed at night.... is that even a RELATED punishment?? I don't htink so!!!
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