peeing a boy

[reducereuserecycle]

i have no idea how to do this....i have never peed a boy. i will be starting EC as soon as baby is born (maybe it won't even be a boy, but i better be prepared)

so, do you hold their penis while they pee? or not?

do you sit them down and aim their penis down? is that ok to hold it downward? i mean will it hurt them or make them not be able to pee all the way? when do boys start peeing standing up?

and as a side note...i remember when dd was born there was a little discharge or something that was normal...for like the first day or 2...what happens with boys? if it is a boy he won't be circ'd so it will be all natural...is there anything i should expect to dischage or anything?

[LiLStar]

I potty ds the same way I pottied dd. Usually just hold him over the sink. I never hold, aim, or otherwise touch his penis. I found it much easier to ec with him too, because, er, he had a very obvious signal. You'll see I never noticed any discharge. I didn't notice any with dd either, but then again, it was a couple days before I was able to change any diapers myself

[reducereuserecycle]

thanks for the quick reply lilstar...

i have no idea if this one is a boy or girl but i am most stressed about it being a boy and having to potty it....i guess cause i never had any brothers or something and the kids i nannied at the potty training age were all girls.

[reducereuserecycle]

oh, i'm not for sure if the stuff with dd was discharge or just leftover vernix but i think i read they have a little discharge at first.

[DevaMajka]

I use a bblp for ds (he's 4 mos old now). But I also sometimes sit facing the back of the toilet. When I do that, I just hold my hand in front of his penis, not touching it, as a sort of deflector.
Of course, I then have to keep holding ds while not touching him with that hand and then getting my hand clean. I dunno- some might think it's gross, but it doesn't phase me.

[nudhistbudhist]

I always aimed ds when he was little... that thing had a mind of its own :P Now that he is older, it seems to not aim so high... or maybe I'm better at aiming using his body???

[Lula's Mom]

My ds is 7.5 weeks old. I don't aim for him. Usually when I take off the diaper to pee him it's a little moist in there, so his penis is stuck to his scrotum and it's naturally aiming down. The end of the foreskin sometimes isn't centered so the pee shoots down and to the side, but it still goes in the toilet. It's easy. Oh, and you probably know this, but don't try to retract his foreskin at all, ever- it's unnecessary and harmful.

Now my older ds is almost 5, and when he goes to the toilet at night he often has an erection. The other night I walked him in from bed to the potty, and he was standing there peeing. Suddenly I realized he was poking straight out and hitting the back of the toilet! Eeek! I did reach out and aim him down quickly, because he was pretty much asleep and in no condition to do it himself.

[hezasan]

My boy goes a bit to the side and he ends up hitting his leg. He seems to stop peeing when that happens. Does anyone else have this happen? Has anything helped?

[Pepper44]

Thanks for asking this! I was curious also if you aimed for a baby boy or what. Subbing to see what everyone else says!

[Lula's Mom]

Originally Posted by hezasan

My boy goes a bit to the side and he ends up hitting his leg. He seems to stop peeing when that happens. Does anyone else have this happen? Has anything helped?

How are you holding him? If we are sitting backwards on the toilet, I hold my ds by the thighs with knees bent, and facing away from me so that his back is against my chest. I then try to make sure his feet are on the potty seat, and his rear end is dipping down slightly lower than his knees. That way, his whole 'package' is basically the lowest point on his body and there's no way the pee will hit his leg.

[lindsayjean]

I wondered this too since my 1st was a girl. In the BBLP it's easy because it just hits the front of the toilet and trickled down, on the regular toilet I hold him way back so if his stream is high it still goes in the toilet. I don't ever aim for him... I tried and he stopped peeing lol.

[hezasan]

Originally Posted by lindsayjean

In the BBLP it's easy because it just hits the front of the toilet and trickled down, on the regular toilet I hold him way back so if his stream is high it still goes in the toilet.

In the BBLP, he kind of "doubles back" so it doesn't go near the front of the potty, but just heads straight for his leg! It might help to hold his thighs, usually I hold him sitting on the potty but I might be able to get his feet up there. If he didn't stop when it hit his leg, I wouldn't care where it went! I've been meaning to make him some split-crotch pants out of wool, maybe that will keep it from bothering him anyway.

[Harmony96]

Subbing, because boy pee is something new to me as well.

And I'm a total TOTAL newbie at ECing (just started YESTERDAY, lol), but DS's head is still so floppy. When I hold him reclined enough so that his head has support, then he's pointing nearly straight up, or at least up and over. I don't want to hold him too far away from any toilet b/c then if he #2s, I want to get THAT in there ya know? So I've found that if we're using the BBLP, then I can use partially it and partially my hand to deflect the stream (I have one hand behind his back and the other hand holding his legs). On the big toilet, I'm holding him the same way, but sort of arrange him so that my hand is somewhere above his package, and I can partially deflect and partially aim that way.

But like a few others on this thread, I have noticed that he'll only pee a teensy bit if I'm aiming him too much.

[Harmony96]

So I came up w/ a solution that's working for us. I took a little 3-oz plastic cup (like those little Dixie cups but plastic so it wouldn't get soggy after repeated uses, lol) and made two cuts in it. I started each cut at the top of the cup, about halfway around from each other. Then I angled them down towards the bottom so that a greater percentage of the circumference was left at the bottom of the cup than at the top. About 50% for the top and about 70% for the bottom. I cut away the smaller portion and left the bottom of the cup fully attached to the side.

Then next time DS needed to go #1, I held him w/ his back against my tummy and each of my hands under each of his legs. With a few of my free fingers, I was able to hold the new "shield" in position. I made my cuing noise (and DS went! Was it just time or is he already learning my cue? lol) and the shield worked great, and all the pee got into the toilet and only a few drops on DS and a few drops on me. Much different than when I used my hand as a shield and afterwards it felt like I had dipped my whole hand in liquid, lol.

[Harmony96]

Hm well I'm already not liking my little shield, lol. Maybe I just need to get used to using it. It's at least better than trying to aim a tiny little fire hose.

[Harmony96]

Ok I think the little cup shield thing is working out for us after all. If he actually needs to pee, then he won't be quite so wiggly and it's easier to hold it and him in place.

[DevaMajka]

Originally Posted by Harmony96

So I came up w/ a solution that's working for us. I took a little 3-oz plastic cup (like those little Dixie cups but plastic so it wouldn't get soggy after repeated uses, lol) and made two cuts in it. I started each cut at the top of the cup, about halfway around from each other. Then I angled them down towards the bottom so that a greater percentage of the circumference was left at the bottom of the cup than at the top. About 50% for the top and about 70% for the bottom. I cut away the smaller portion and left the bottom of the cup fully attached to the side.

oohh, good idea- I'm going to try something like that

[hezasan]

That sounds like a plan! Can you describe the cuts you made, I'm not really getting the picture.
So far I've been trying to hold him at an angle so he's pointing downward, but that doesn't always work! A shield might be something to try.
At least he doesn't seem to be bothered any more by the pee hitting his leg! It just makes things kind of...wet.

[Harmony96]

Originally Posted by hezasan

That sounds like a plan! Can you describe the cuts you made, I'm not really getting the picture.

Does this help you get the picture? I think I might be tweaking it some, like making it a double layer or something. The cups I'm using are just so flimsy. Or maybe find a tiny bowl and somehow attach a handle of some sort to it. I dunno.

But I really like this shield idea.

[hezasan]

Ah! It all makes sense now, thanks for the picture!
Small bowl with a handle...I'm picturing something, maybe a round measuring cup? I think I've seen some bowl-shaped ones somewhere, but I don't know what brand or anything...