I'm not sure how far she is from you, because I was travelling from NY myself, but I cannot recommend Dr Winsome Parchment highly enough. A true M.D. - Midwife in Disguise!! Her office is in Maplewood, and she attends births at Overlook Hospital in Summit, and Mountainside Hospital (Montclair, I think). I think it's worth travelling.
I had my drug-free VBAC with her at Overlook ,and could not have been happier. At 41.4 weeks my baby was 11lb 15 oz - quite a few "risk factors" that would have had many providers, including some midwives, putting me on the OR schedule.
I transferred to her care at 37 weeks, and firmly believe that I would have had a repeat C/S, had I not made that decision. I am a strong believer in exploring your options. Even if you don't make a change, you won't regret having more information. For me, the regrets associated with my c/s were all about not following my gut and asking enough questions - "hoping for the best," and being disappointed.
Also, my 2 more cents - if you're hearing bad things, run! There are plenty of providers that are "supportive of VBAC," but when push comes to shove, that support is very conditional. If at all possible go on recommendations of women who've had VBACs with the provider. If you can't find any - there's the information you need.
Last thing -- Hire a doula. Worth their weight in gold, imho!!!
All the best to you!!