So mad and upset - at my Pedi - Page 3

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

Originally Posted by Louisep

My friend pointed out that DS still wakes when I am right next to him (and last night it was maybe 6 times? And he only wanted boob maybe twice) therefore I'm not an association otherwise he would stay asleep! (of course, I'm happy to be an association). I remarked to DH this morning how DS just wanted to cuddle last night not nurse and he said "how dreadful that you cuddled your son all night instead of putting him behind bars"(mock tone).

Oh, how can I get my husband to take on your husbands point of view?? Good for Dada!

[OGirlieMama]

Originally Posted by Barbie64g

Can i just comment that my ped doesnt ask me about sleep. WAIT, thats a lie, she asked me once about my toddler at his one year. She said, is he sleeping 12 hours a night? And I hesitated and started doing the math in my head, but she really didnt seem to care what my answer was. It was like she was just going down her "checklist" of developmnental stuff, but just going through the motions. So there are "mainstream" peds out there that could care less about sleep. The trick is finding one.

Same here. The one time I did bring up frustration regarding sleep (around 9 months, I think) he said "Well, maybe it's time to do some Ferber...but you're the mom..." and that was pretty much it. I'm sure if I'd asked for more info, he'd have given me an earful, but as it was, I realized that he was primarily a medical health resource, and that he's really good at that, and we weren't necessarily going to see eye-to-eye on other stuff. Fine by me.

And since I mentioned Ferber, he makes a big fuss about sleep associations. If your baby falls asleep with you, she will be looking for you when she wakes up during the night, and will never STTN. If your baby falls asleep by herself, she'll have the same amount of brief awakenings during the night, but since everything will be exactly as it was when she went to sleep, she'll just gently roll over and go back to sleep.

Sounds great! Except it's not true. Both my twins were falling asleep on their own in their cribs starting around age 1 (no CIO). One STTN for about a year, the other never did and never has. Clearly there's more in play than simple sleep associations.

[Shanny2032]

If she would like the proof that CIO is bad, please have her call me. I know of 2 toddlers (one I currently Nanny for and the other I previously nannied for) who were left to CIO and they are the most insecure little people I have ever known. Is it all CIO? No, I think some of it is just their personalities but it certainly didn't help matters did it? My dd also has never been left and was walking at 9 months, signs away and is the happiest baby ever . Last night at 11 months now she slept for 6 hours straight and I feel like a new woman! Haha. I love sleeping with my baby and nursing and all of the other "bad" stuff we are doing so someone is going to have to show me some cold, hard facts before I change anything. Lastly, I had a pedi - a GI specialist no less - tell me at 5 months that there was no more benefits to breastfeeding at that point. If that doesn't prove how clueless some doctors are, I don't know what does! Good for you, I hope you can find a better Dr.

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Originally Posted by SactoMommy

Wha???? http://www.sleepdex.org/soad.htm

I especially love tat they want you to treat this horrible "associating to something for sleep" thing with A BEDTIME ROUTINE. Isn't that "an association"?



bolding mine: so THAT'S who we really care about. Funny, I thought "disorders" were about the person being diagnosed, not their suffering families.

when DP and I got together he had a hard time falling asleep without the tv on. turns out his mom, brother/his wife, their teenage kids ALL do it..... which is fine.....
I can't sleep with ANY light on.... our cable box has to be off, because the single blue dot will keep me from falling asleep. Lights off, TV defintely off.... doors shut...
I guess we both have 'sleep association disorder'.......
(((every one has a thing, my kids don't like to sleep alone, they sleep together, with a night light on( and with 8 different stuffed animals.... everyone has their preferences

[Kristin0105]

As a child psychologist I'll say what you are doing is best and what your doctor told you is harmful at best. I'll leave the rest of my thoughts on this so called "child expert" to myself. Please for your children's sake keep doing what you are doing and find a new doctor or just ignore her "advice" as Dr. Sears says pediatricians shoudl not be asking you about how your child goes to sleep at night.

Good luck.