My DD2 will be 2 next week. DD1 was a stellar cosleeper. DD2 is sooo not. She slept with us until about 6 months. She just doesnt sleep well in our bed. Neither do we. We have side carred. Bed in our room apart from bed. bed on floor. Finally we moved her to a matress on the floor of her room and I tried sleeping with her. No dice. She sleeps so poorly with someone next to her. The problem is that she thinks she wants someone next to her. But once someone is there, she doesnt sleep.
We tried nightweaning. She has not nursed at night for 4 months and still hollers to nurse when she wakes up EVERY 2 HOURS all night everynight. She doesnt wake upset, just gets up, goes to gate at door, chirps across the hall...Mama! Dada! in a singsong little voice.
I am 11 weeks pregnant. It is killing me. She HAS so start sleeping. I know she is in the habit of waking and just not going back to sleep herself. We have retried cosleeping again recently and it was horrible.
I see two issues. 1) She still wants to nurse at night, which is very tough on me because that tends to involve cosleeping and that does not work with this one. and 2) We have made no effort for a good bedtime routine that encourages her indendence.
I had the flu last month and I am still sick, cant shake it, because I am getting no sleep. My nipples hurt so horribly that nursing is just nearly mroe than I can take. I am nearing total dysfunction. I keep telling myself it is a stage, but this is now 2 years of poor sleep which makes it her whole life, not a stage. I am getting to the point that I resent the nursing because I feel like i is contributing to the poor sleep.
I am thinking I going to start some gentle weaning and am hoping that a solid bedtime routine will help. Can you please offer some thoughts on whether this will help, as well as what your toddler routine at bedtime is?
I am thinking we start with bath, rocking and stories in the rocking chair in her room (maybe last nursing in the chair for now), in bed, sit (not lay) in the bed with her and sing songs, rub back etc. My hope being to eventually be able to sit next to bed, maybe read while she gets better at dozing off without having to be on me. THen eventually doing the...mommy is going to go brush her teeth, brb....then back in 2 minutes...etc...until she gets a little better at not being so very dependant on me all the time.
I just am so at wits end. My first DD coslept till age 5 wonderfully and nursed until she weaned at age 4. This time it is SO different. I am ready to draw some lines in the sand but want to do it in a gentle as possible way.
Thoughts?
We tried nightweaning. She has not nursed at night for 4 months and still hollers to nurse when she wakes up EVERY 2 HOURS all night everynight. She doesnt wake upset, just gets up, goes to gate at door, chirps across the hall...Mama! Dada! in a singsong little voice.
I am 11 weeks pregnant. It is killing me. She HAS so start sleeping. I know she is in the habit of waking and just not going back to sleep herself. We have retried cosleeping again recently and it was horrible.
I see two issues. 1) She still wants to nurse at night, which is very tough on me because that tends to involve cosleeping and that does not work with this one. and 2) We have made no effort for a good bedtime routine that encourages her indendence.
I had the flu last month and I am still sick, cant shake it, because I am getting no sleep. My nipples hurt so horribly that nursing is just nearly mroe than I can take. I am nearing total dysfunction. I keep telling myself it is a stage, but this is now 2 years of poor sleep which makes it her whole life, not a stage. I am getting to the point that I resent the nursing because I feel like i is contributing to the poor sleep.
I am thinking I going to start some gentle weaning and am hoping that a solid bedtime routine will help. Can you please offer some thoughts on whether this will help, as well as what your toddler routine at bedtime is?
I am thinking we start with bath, rocking and stories in the rocking chair in her room (maybe last nursing in the chair for now), in bed, sit (not lay) in the bed with her and sing songs, rub back etc. My hope being to eventually be able to sit next to bed, maybe read while she gets better at dozing off without having to be on me. THen eventually doing the...mommy is going to go brush her teeth, brb....then back in 2 minutes...etc...until she gets a little better at not being so very dependant on me all the time.
I just am so at wits end. My first DD coslept till age 5 wonderfully and nursed until she weaned at age 4. This time it is SO different. I am ready to draw some lines in the sand but want to do it in a gentle as possible way.
Thoughts?
