I wanted to post a little update, and to thank everyone again for all their wisdom and kind words.
Little baby Ethan is now with his adoptive family, they were beyond thrilled to meet him. We called that second afternoon and they were at the hospital by the evening, but were never pushy or rude. They had long conversations with my sister in law before even meeting the baby, to make sure that this was the right move for everyone involved, most especially the baby. My SIL and the adoptive family named him together.
One of my SIL's big concerns was that the adoptive dad is also an MD, and works in a complimentary specialty, she didn't want to spend the next 10 years wondering when she's have to talk to him or bump into him at a conference. They worked out all that stuff, and she feels much more confident. The adoptive family is also far more supportive of a more open relationship, which isn't what my SIL was looking for before the birth, but she now feels more willing to be a part of.
The adoptive family seems really great, they were eager to exchange contact information with everyone who was interested, but they managed not to be pushy about it at all. I think they understood how difficult this has been for the whole family (there were family members willing to adopt) and they went out of their way to make things smooth and easy.
Through the courts, they were able to contact the dad (who is currently serving his time for the rape) and discovered that the baby has some native american in him, his grandmother was 100% of one of the native tribes in Minnesota. The baby is just gorgeous, he's got blue eyes, blond hair and dark olive skin.
Thanks again to everyone, especially Katherine, for all your guidance during such a difficult time. Everyone here is thankful that he found the right family and that my SIL has found some peace with her decision.
Little baby Ethan is now with his adoptive family, they were beyond thrilled to meet him. We called that second afternoon and they were at the hospital by the evening, but were never pushy or rude. They had long conversations with my sister in law before even meeting the baby, to make sure that this was the right move for everyone involved, most especially the baby. My SIL and the adoptive family named him together.
One of my SIL's big concerns was that the adoptive dad is also an MD, and works in a complimentary specialty, she didn't want to spend the next 10 years wondering when she's have to talk to him or bump into him at a conference. They worked out all that stuff, and she feels much more confident. The adoptive family is also far more supportive of a more open relationship, which isn't what my SIL was looking for before the birth, but she now feels more willing to be a part of.
The adoptive family seems really great, they were eager to exchange contact information with everyone who was interested, but they managed not to be pushy about it at all. I think they understood how difficult this has been for the whole family (there were family members willing to adopt) and they went out of their way to make things smooth and easy.
Through the courts, they were able to contact the dad (who is currently serving his time for the rape) and discovered that the baby has some native american in him, his grandmother was 100% of one of the native tribes in Minnesota. The baby is just gorgeous, he's got blue eyes, blond hair and dark olive skin.
Thanks again to everyone, especially Katherine, for all your guidance during such a difficult time. Everyone here is thankful that he found the right family and that my SIL has found some peace with her decision.
what a relief those awful first parents bailed, this sounds like such a wonderful situation for everyone involved. many peaceful well-wishes to your SIL, hope she finds healing and can maintain the kind of relationship she desires with her son and his family.
