Noelle....I wish you the best of luck.
If the hospital will allow you to deliver breech, I would be so happy.....if they will not, I would HIGHLY suggest you try and find a MW...ANYONE who will come and attend your birth who knows what they are doing....not because you CAN'T do it....but because you have so many factors coming into play, that it would probably be the very best thing to have someone there with many births and hopefully a few out of hospital breech births under her belt.
I believe in unassited childbirth. It is where my heart is and it is the type of birth that works best for my family.....so, please understand that is where I'm coming from. What makes me say that I think you should try and find someone who will assist, even if in an "underground" capacity, is because you have so many different things going on....there is no one thing about your situation which strikes me as inherently endangering to you or your baby...but everything taken into considerations at once -ESPECIALLY the fact that you weren't planning a UC until you felt backed into a corner- makes me feel like having someone there with breech exp. may be best.
All that being said....if I were in your exact shoes and had to choose between a c/s that I had a 50/50 chance of MAKING IT through...and a UC breech birth, even with everything else taken into consideration...you can bet your britches I'd be UCing.
Please....hit the books, find out EVERYTHING you can about your situations and possible turns it could take. Get on the phone with the Farm and ask them if they know anyone in your neck of the woods, get on the phone with everyone and anyone whose phone number you can get....just "bump into" everyone in the natural birth community that you can....maybe just maybe, someone will know of someone who could come and help you...or the very least, will have some words of wisdom.
I would never, ever consent to a procedure which left me with a 50% chance of DEATH if there were an option out there with better odds...and as much as you UCing with some of the factors involved makes me slightly "eh"....you UCing this baby, you have better than 50/50 odds of surviving.
All my love and best wishes....I can't believe this hospital wouldn't allow for a breech delivery, but I have been following your story and I know you have been trying really hard to get them to. *sigh* What they are doing should be illegal.