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post #101 of 256
11/12/09 at 3:44pm
Oh papa ... I'm so sorry about the betas.

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post #102 of 256
11/12/09 at 4:37pm
Papa, I am so very very sorry for this heartbreak. Thinking of you, knowing what it's like for that to happen.

Big sadness here. And many hugs.

megin
post #103 of 256
11/12/09 at 4:40pm
I'm really really sorry to hear about the results, Papa. My thoughts are with you.
post #104 of 256
11/12/09 at 5:42pm
I'm still holding out!! 2 is NOT zero!! I know its crazy but really?? It was 11 DPO and I was the one that totally made Papa jump that gun. So here I remain ignorantly hopeful and ready to take you, sir, out to dinner. Get out of those sweatpants and lets go celebrate your 2 more than Nada! You are still pregnant, and that is what we are celebrating tonight!
post #105 of 256
11/12/09 at 5:45pm
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I'm still holding out!! 2 is NOT zero!! I know its crazy but really?? It was 11 DPO and I was the one that totally made Papa jump that gun. So here I remain ignorantly hopeful and ready to take you, sir, out to dinner. Get out of those sweatpants and lets go celebrate your 2 more than Nada! You are still pregnant, and that is what we are celebrating tonight!
I just wanted to say that I think you're wonderful. Definitely take him out and celebrate, for sure!

kjm has a point. By 14 dpo, "normal" betas can range anywhere from 3 to 426. And your beta was 3 days earlier than that!!!

ETA: See? Check this out!

...it's not over till the wicked witch rides in on her broom!
post #106 of 256
11/12/09 at 8:51pm
I'm with KJM and Lyndzies, keeping my fingers and toes crossed that the betas just climb and climb. I am sorry you have to be on this roller coaster, though, and I hope you're being gentle with yourself in this stressful time. While you wait for (good!) news, I'm sending you all sorts of love and sticky vibes.
post #107 of 256
11/12/09 at 9:04pm
Papa - I'm going to join the other in hoping the numbers climb. I'm sorry the beta wasn't purely good news
post #108 of 256
11/12/09 at 9:05pm
Papa,
Maybe you just had a late-ish implantation and it hasn't had a chance to pump out that good ole hCG yet!!! Keeping all extremities crossed for you!!!
post #109 of 256
11/12/09 at 9:57pm
KJM did cheer me up quite a bit, and did take me out for a delicious dinner! In my sweatpants, no less!

I am feeling a little more positive about the whole thing because she came over and stared at my $ tree tests and determined that there are lines on all of them, from 10 DPO, 11 DPO, the two I took the afternoon of 12 DPO, the one I took the morning of 13 DPO and the one I took the afternoon, all of them have very tiny little lines. THe one on 11 DPO just happens to be the strongest.

However, in spite of everyone's reassurances, I feel like the hCG level is simply too low. I looked at betabase all day, the median for 11 DPO is 24, which means that half were above, half were below. Even if by some fluke I didn't O until two days after the trigger, and I'm only 10 DPO, the median is still 16.

Keep in mind that those scores are calculated based on a heartbeat. While seeing a heartbeat is a great milestone to reach, there's a long way to go between heartbeat and what the fertility industry calls a "take home baby" and I hate that term, but that's what counts as a success in my book.

So, there you have it. My beta is at the very edge of the chart, nearly off the chart low.

It ain't over 'til it's over, but it's pretty darn close to over right now. I should get the second beta back on Monday, in the meantime, I'll keep peeing on things in the hopes of clear positive.

My stomach still feels weird, my nipples still hurt. These are both good things.
post #110 of 256
11/12/09 at 10:43pm
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It ain't over 'til it's over, but it's pretty darn close to over right now. I should get the second beta back on Monday, in the meantime, I'll keep peeing on things in the hopes of clear positive.
It makes me happy that you changed you siggy back, at least.
post #111 of 256
11/12/09 at 11:57pm

Afm

AFM---- Im having a few odd food craving, but then again my normal diet is pretty out there...however, I did catch myself eating olives by the dozen, and ranch dressing out of the jar. (When I was briefly pregnant before, I could NOT get enough Pimento Cheese).

So, Im not making too much out of it at this point....
post #112 of 256
11/13/09 at 1:38am
PAPA--I should be asleep! NOT obsessively trying to promote obsession BUT

check this one out:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/in...3144616AA7Y2Ld

Look at Jena W's response!?!!?
post #113 of 256
11/13/09 at 2:09am
KJM, you are an enabler. Go to sleep. Kale needs hir sleep.

I'm still up grading papers and listening to my twitchy right ovary. I'm starting to wonder if maybe it could be ectopic, tubal. Which might explain the dull ache in my right side.

Thing is, I know when I ovulated to within 24 hours, because of the trigger shot.

I just want this to be over if it's going to end, but I do not feel like I'm going to start bleeding tomorrow. I just want another nice solid line on a test tomorrow. Is that really too much to hope for?
post #114 of 256
11/13/09 at 10:37am
Papa, I'm so sorry that this can't just be a wonderful pleasant change from the long road you've already been down.
We're still hoping for you and sending some vibes from Canada that you hear good news on Monday!!
post #115 of 256
11/13/09 at 10:42am
Thread Starter 
Papa - !!!

AFM - I am weak; broke down and temped this AM, but I guess it's better than POAS. Lol! I figure I temped today, I'll temp at 11dpo, and then 14 dpo.... just to have the pattern on my chart? Am I totally trying to over-justify? I'm ridiculous, I know. Gah, should have just had DP hide the thermometer!!

Also, I have this weird sort of back ache thing going on on my left side, still crampy in the AM, and my bbs still haven't really gotten sore yet. Oh, and I ordered a tuna sub with guacamole on it yesterday, which is odd for me. I've never had that combo before, but for some reason I just NEEDED it.

Obsess much?


ETA: Oh, and I teared up last night during a WalMart commercial. WALMART. Granted, it was touching, but this crying thing has got to stop!
post #116 of 256
11/13/09 at 1:15pm
Papa - Coming out of waiting lurkdom to respond to the right ovary ache. It's very normal (and pregnant!) because most likely, that's the side you ovulated from and thus met spermie and implanted. Very normal and probably NOT ectopic. *Returning to lurkdom now*
post #117 of 256
11/13/09 at 1:25pm
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Papa - Coming out of waiting lurkdom to respond to the right ovary ache. It's very normal (and pregnant!) because most likely, that's the side you ovulated from and thus met spermie and implanted. Very normal and probably NOT ectopic. *Returning to lurkdom now*
Eeek! I have L-side dull ache, and that's also the side I felt O pain this cycle!

Great, another thing to obsess about (but thanks, for reals!).

You guys, I'm starting to get all kinds of hope for this cycle. Darnit. I was trying to "expect nothing and therefore not be disappointed."

Oh well!
post #118 of 256
11/13/09 at 2:15pm
Popping in to say that we saw a heartbeat this morning!

Everything looks great with the pregnancy at this point. For the first time, I feel like I can say "Katie is pregnant!" (instead of "the IVF worked").

This all is still beyond hard to believe. But I'm getting there.....

be well all,
megin
post #119 of 256
11/13/09 at 3:16pm
papa, i came back over here because i couldn't remember if you'd had a trigger shot, and i just saw here that you did. couldn't THAT be the reason for your faint BFPs? maybe the hcg from the trigger was still exiting your system and showing up in your urine, and maybe the blood test was just done too early to know if you are actually pregnant or not. just curious...

-mama b / muffin / s / whatever name is more recognizable than this one

okay, sorry everyone else. i don't mean to keep being a total thread-crasher, just have papa and his belly on my mind!

oh and hi lyndzies! your symps sound great...
post #120 of 256
11/13/09 at 5:08pm
Man you guys make my day... I am sitting here at work, on mothering, Which Obviously I am not supposed to be, and you are making me laugh. Either I laugh or I cry from being so frustrated about waiting. DP and I agreed that we won't temp until 11/17... four more days
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