Originally Posted by kjoy2
I also found the OBs suggestion to leave the final decision to the OB. . .
Originally Posted by venustx
But that isn't what the doctor said at all. . . .Nobody, even the chairman, has suggested blindly following the OB's advice.
Venustx, what exactly does this
Originally Posted by Barefoot Farmer
He wants me to consider expressing my thoughts and concerns w/ my doc, but ultimately letting my doc make the decision
(bold emphasis mine)
Sounds to me like some window dressing of "go ahead and express your feelings" followed-up by a nice big serving of "and then just do what you're told".
I'm not suggesting that the chairman's comments were callous or malicious, but I certainly think they are atrociously misguided!
When was the last time any of us worked with a banker, lawyer, real estate agent or general contractor and were advised to "ultimately leave the decision fully in the hands" of that person?And on a tangent:
I also noted your comment about following your own OB's suggestion not being "old guard attitude". I guess I was a little surprised that you thought it relevant to mention that your OB was a woman.
Discussions we may have here about many obstetricians displaying "unaware=male" attitudes that do not respect women and babies sometimes apply in the general
arena. But I've never seen anyone suggest that every individual obstetrician out there behaves this way. Certainly there are cases of in-touch and aware and more naturally-guided obstetricians - male or female.
I thought it was interesting that you felt it necessary to make the point your OB was female, when I reflected on Dr. Christiane Northup's book "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom". She writes at some length about her early years as an obstetrician and the overwhelming understanding she gleaned in those years, that to succeed in that career required her to suppress her femaleness in many, many ways in an attempt to be accepted and respected professionally.