Originally Posted by Deer Hunter
That struck a nerve very bad with me because I feel that it is her body, and though they are the parents, it is not their duty to force their child to do things to her body against her will.
I think it's a grey area. My 13 year old is involved in decisions about her medical care. I speak very openly and honestly with her about things, try to get her to look at things critically, and listen to her. Ultimately I'm responsible for her right now, but I feel like this is the period of her life when I get to train her HOW to make these kinds of decisions. If I just make them for her she misses out, but if I just let her make them without teaching her to think criticially, she also misses out.
I wouldn't, BTW, force my DD to do something to her body against her will. One thing about teens is that they have plenty of ways of taking control of their bodies in destructive, rebellous ways. I think that parents who get into power struggles over this are misguided.
Once kids are old enough to drink, smoke, use illegal drugs, have sex, cut themselves with knives, etc., parents really need to pick their battles and think about how they are teaching kids to make choices rather than forcing kids to make exactly the choice the parent wants on those few things that parents actually can control. There is so much more that we really and truly don't have control over. I believe that the more we respect a teens right to control their body, the less likely they are to do something stupid just to prove us wrong.
|Not to mention, I’m one hundred percent antovaccination, so I supported her daughter.
I suspect that this is more the issue than whether or not teens should get to make their own choices regarding their bodies. I suspect that your response would have been different if the teen had wanted vaccines and the parents were against them.
I really see it the same way either way, and I believe that teens are old enough to be part of the decision. However, that only works if the parents truly are OK with the teen making either choice.
|I also explained that they should be patient with their daughter, since she is going through a very confusing period in her life, and she is only trying to find herself. I also let them know how tough it is to be a teenager, as that time of my life is one I never want to live.
But would you be OK with your teen deciding to get the MMR? Would you be able to talk calmly to your own child? Respect her choice?