Originally Posted by caj
But at 16, I was very mature for my age. I had lousy parents and I basically had to take care of my younger sisters by myself. ... But my daughter is being raised in a different way and she's not going to be the same way I was at that age...
So her making choices about her body at that age, is out of the question...
So because your Dd has always been loved and supported she will be LESS mature at 16?
I had a crappy childhood and left home as a teen. While I was independant, I find in many ways my kids are more mature at the same ages. They are more balanced, reasonable, and better able to understand long term consequences. I was a survivor, but they are truly thriving.
Originally Posted by kittywitty
So peoples' opinions don't count if they don't have kids? ... Maybe someone who can step outside just their emotions over their own child situation and look at it objectively as an outsider would have a good view? Anyone ever think of that?
A couple of my friends don't have kids and I find that they are super to talk to because they can see things better from my kids' points of view. It's so easy to get caught up in the mother thing that we forget that these are humans beings we are raising.
Personally, I think it is far more radical to assume that by practicing AP our kids will be ready to make all sorts of good choices for themselves in the teen years than to assume that we need to dictate every little thing to them as long as the law allows. Heck, that's just mainstream parenting.