My Dad Died!

[DebraStorm]

Please pray for my family! My Dad (bio-father), whom I have not seen since I was 3, passed away on 11/2. The VA notified my Uncle on the 2nd when he died but my Uncle did not notify anyone else until today (the 5th for me, 4th in the States). My cousin sent me a message so I called my Aunt.

I am the only child so I am trying to do what I can from Japan but it is difficult. I am waiting for the VA Hospital in CA to open up so I can find out what is needed for my Aunt to be able to set up the Cremation, etc. And then I will head to Palo Alto, CA ASAP. I have no idea what all I am supposed to do with being the only child?!

Are there any mommas in the Palo Alto area that can recommend hotels, car rentals, etc?

Thanks so much!

[Rach]

[DebraStorm]

Thank you, Rach! I appreciate it!

[rainbowmoon]

I'm sorry mama

I am not sure what you would be expected to do (if anything) since you had not seen him in so long. Did he have a will? This will tell you should be responsible for his estate,etc.

[Peacemamalove]

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[DebraStorm]

Originally Posted by rainbowmoon

I'm sorry mama

I am not sure what you would be expected to do (if anything) since you had not seen him in so long. Did he have a will? This will tell you should be responsible for his estate,etc.

No unfortunately he did not have a will & I am the only child. I am so lost in all of this!

[Drummer's Wife]

[rainbowmoon]

Originally Posted by DebraStorm

No unfortunately he did not have a will & I am the only child. I am so lost in all of this!

well you aren't required to do anything. My aunt just died and my dad (her brother) took care of everything not her son (who also was an only child though he did not have contact with his mom for several years before her death). She had a will (an very old one drafted in the early 70's) but it put her soon to be divorced hubby in charge who wanted nothing to do with any of it (hence why my dad stepped up). Is your aunt helping? or are they expecting you to do everything? if you are the one having to do everything then the first thing you will want to do is make arrangements with the mortuary. Then start looking for a lawyer.

[Ifluffedthree]

I am sorry!

[LionTigerBear]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[DebraStorm]

Originally Posted by rainbowmoon

well you aren't required to do anything. My aunt just died and my dad (her brother) took care of everything not her son (who also was an only child though he did not have contact with his mom for several years before her death). She had a will (an very old one drafted in the early 70's) but it put her soon to be divorced hubby in charge who wanted nothing to do with any of it (hence why my dad stepped up). Is your aunt helping? or are they expecting you to do everything? if you are the one having to do everything then the first thing you will want to do is make arrangements with the mortuary. Then start looking for a lawyer.

Thank you so much for your suggestions! I appreciate it! My Aunt is willing to help in any way I want her to. They are just leaving all decisions up to me. My Aunts & Uncles are fine with whatever I choose.

[Happily Blessed]

I am so sorry for you loss. My prayers are with you during this time.