Any other fluffy mamas?

[wavybrains]

I'm starting this pregnancy about 20 pounds more than I started with with DD, and that has me a little down. I'm a size 18/20 ish right now, and I'm nervous that health care providers will treat me more "high risk" now based on my weight. I'm a little more worried about diabetes/hbp this time too. I tried really hard with DD to love my pregnant body even though I was larger than I wanted to be when I got pregnant with her--I did a belly cast, took pictures every other week. I think it might be a little more of a challenge this time around. I'm going to try really hard to not gain too much weight, but I know that passing my all-time highest weight is a real possibility. Sigh.

Anyone else?

[welsh]

Hi there -
Well I was 270lbs when I fell pg with DS and I feel like I suprised my ob.
Only gained 20lbs as per her recommendation, no gd, no high bp and an unmedicated birth.
Luckily for me, nursing melted the lbs off me and I was at 220lbs when DS turned 1.

Unfortunately I haven't lost anymore and I'm scared of going back to where I was. I know that when I meet my new hcp, they'll comment on my weight and I'll have to say, 'You should've seen me 3 yrs ago'!!
It really frightened me when I had to tell the labor and delivery nurse my weight and it was 290lbs. Wow. Just wow.

[maranapanda]

I am 60 lbs over weight, and I am concerned about gaining. I started my gaining trend with dc#1 gaining 60lbs, then I lost most only to get pregnant again and gain 40lbs. Then I lost... a little, then I started to really enjoy beer a few nights a week... did not help my weight. Bringing me to my plus sixty. My hope was that if we were to have another baby that I would loose weight first. This was a surprise. I changed my hope. Now I just hope that I can keep the weight gain low.

[Surfacing]

I gained 50 lbs with dd1, and was about 206 lbs when giving birth (I'm only 5'4"). Then I had a really really hard time losing weight. I got back down to about 170 lbs and was at about 206 lbs again when I birthed dd2. Now I am about 183 lbs and don't want to get past 206 again.

I too am just hoping to keep the weight gain low.

I used to love to exercise and did so fiercly, dancing for 25 yrs before I had kids. Now I just feel so unmotivated. For many reasons. I miss dancing with a group of friends. I don't have the time to do that now. Must find something up near me to enjoy.

I'm hoping to eat better this time too, fewer sweets! Less chocolate! More healthy low-fat protein like beans

[moonmama22]

I gained 50 lbs with ds#1, and 5 yrs. later, still have 20 of that on me. I just can't seem to get rid of it - I was down to about 150 a year ago, but for some reason, put on another 10 lbs. again. I'm hoping this time to be a little more careful (though I was not the "eat everything in sight" pregnant lady last time either...) and try to only gain 20-25 lbs this time - then maybe I can lose it nursing and be back to where I started. I get so frustrated about it - I tried to lose some weight before getting married a month ago, but then was unhappy when I saw the pictures... Though I really do want to get pictures of my pregnant belly this time - I was so embarrassed about my weight gain last time, that I have almost no pictures of myself pregnant!

[Heart349]

I'm more than fluffy. I recently lost about 15 pounds bringing me to 265 going into this pregnancy. I was terrified too, until I started to look up plus size maternity clothing and began reading about plus size pregnancies. Of course there are the concerns about high blood pressure and such, but the statistics I've been reading are that these issues are not as eminent as everyone makes it out to be. In looking at one of the studies, there are healthy weight mothers who go into a pregnancy with high blood pressure who pose a much higher risk.

There is always time after the pregnancy to lose weight and love your body, but try to be happy with the miracle inside you. I was told I would never get pregnant until I lost 50 lbs but here I am, and nature/God can't be entirely wrong right? So let's eat healthy and love the body that is providing nourishment to our little sweet peas. Who's with me?

[Surfacing]

Originally Posted by Heart349

There is always time after the pregnancy to lose weight and love your body, but try to be happy with the miracle inside you. I was told I would never get pregnant until I lost 50 lbs but here I am, and nature/God can't be entirely wrong right? So let's eat healthy and love the body that is providing nourishment to our little sweet peas. Who's with me?

[chattyprincess]

Yup, I am fluffy.
I gained 70lbs with my first pregnancy. I had only known my dh then for 3 mths (not married then), quit smoking and was eating a traditional american diet. I have lost 40 some odd pounds since then. But am still haning on strong to the last bit.
I am not trying to not gain weight...to me thats an unhealthy way to think. I am just trying to be a healthier person and eat what I should everyday.
I am eating a more tf diet....here is a thread....
http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1156732

I am excersing daily, eating well and just trying to find happiness in who and what I am. I want to/need to replenish stores from my dd nursing for 2 years so this baby can thrive.

[Lizzardbits]

all my pregnancies i have been 200+ lbs, but last one i topped out at 300+ by a few weeks before he was born. I ran into "fat phobia" from my UK midwives and they wanted an ultrasound done at 38 weeks to "make sure" the baby was head down....they wouldn't just take my word when i said that his feet were well stuck in my left ribs. There were other little fat phobia things that they did, but preg brain fuzz won't let me remember.

One of the first questions i asked my potential midwife when i was chatting to her over the phone, did she think fat women are high risk? Nope, some of her healthiest clients are overweight, plus she's fluffy so not to worry with fat phobia from her. I told her I loved her

I love being pregnant, and I like to think that my fat has a purpose.

[veesmimi]

I was supposed to lose 15-20 lbs before getting pregnant.... but somewhere between the fun of our first yr of marriage and ttc, I think I gained a few! Oops! I would love to minimize preggo weight gain--20-25lbs. Is that possible? I think 40 was the least I've gained w/my kiddos. I really don't want to outweigh my dh! I know, I'm being silly.

Body Image should not be a part of pregnancy!!

[wavybrains]

Thanks everyone for chiming it! It really made me feel better!

[bjorker]

I can ditto almost exactly what surfacing said.

In the past five years I was as high as about 210 (I swear I lost ZERO pounds when dd came out of me) and as low as 140. But I wasn't eating well. If I eat when I'm supposed to, and in general the types of foods I'm supposed to, I seem to hang around 170 - 180. I did exercise really well for awhile but it didn't change the way I look/feel at all, and I got discouraged. I do want to get back into a routine, but right now I feel too sick to do much of anything.

Part of the problem is that I'm on an SSRI and can't go off of it, so that really doesn't help.

I really really REALLY don't want to be where I was after dd was born, but there's only so much I can do and I'm trying to just let it go and focus on what's important.

[Surfacing]

Bjorker I'm on an SSRI too and gained 30 lbs from being on it. After dd2 was born, I lost but then gained right back to my full-term pregnancy weight!!! I joined Weight Watchers then.

The thing is, I lost about 25 lbs on WW -- so it works for me. But I was hungry. I don't care what anyone says about it becoming a lifestyle thing etc blah blah blah. I felt like I was starving. I really think it was the low-fat thing. I really need some fats to feel satisfied. I can have a stomach full of celery, but I'll still feel hungry and dizzy. Yk? So frustrating.

Interesting, when I chuck out the window all the "shoulds", and I eat like I was raised: rye bread with butter and cheese, eaten with veggies like green onion, pepper slices, tomato... then I feel satisfied and have energy to be strong and go about my business.

Thanks Chattyprincess for the link to your TF thread.

Veesmimi - thanks for the reminder that body image should not be part of pregnancy! But for sure I want to make healthy choices and not gain excessively.

I always gain and hang on to a ton of weight postpartum for about a year. That's because I do a lot of lying down with and hanging around my infant. When they get up and moving, I get up and moving. I wonder if I should do something to change this. Thoughts?

[moonmama22]

I agree completely with chattyprincess - to try not to gain any way is an unhealthy way of thinking. The only reason I even have a scale was to weigh our luggage when we flew to Disney. Now I'm back to my old ways of weighing myself all the time, which I know is really not good. I'm trying to focus more on being generally healthy and not so much on "getting thin"!

[oddduck]

I'm 5'7" and started my first pregnancy in the one 170s (gained 25lbs). This time around I'm starting out on the chunky side of things, I'm a stress eater and I'm at least 180lbs (maybe even closer to 190lbs) right now.

[tarasattva]

Originally Posted by Lizzardbits

all my pregnancies i have been 200+ lbs, but last one i topped out at 300+ by a few weeks before he was born.

Lizzardbits - Thanks for putting this out there - I'm going into the pregnancy at just under 300. This certainly isn't how I planned things - I lost 100# before getting pregnant w/ my daughter and expected to drop some of my first baby weight not add to it before getting pregnant again, but here I am...

It's nice to know someone else has BTDT.

My long term goal for this pregnancy (with my MW's support) is to not gain, but honestly I am living day-to-day with my short-term goal of eating enough good foods (lots of whole foods and veggies) to feel satisfied and to get a bit more exercise than I have been. We'll see how this goes...

[rightkindofme]

I've got some chunk. I don't actually mind it. I'm healthy and I'm not in that bad of shape. It's not something I will let be a problem during pregnancy--that's for sure. I have the whole rest of my life to obsess about my weight if I want to. These nine months are not about me.

[bjorker]

Originally Posted by rightkindofme

I've got some chunk. I don't actually mind it. I'm healthy and I'm not in that bad of shape. It's not something I will let be a problem during pregnancy--that's for sure. I have the whole rest of my life to obsess about my weight if I want to. These nine months are not about me.

I think I love you.

[rightkindofme]

Originally Posted by bjorker

I think I love you.

Yay! I've always wanted to have a friend on MDC but so far I seem unpopular.

[bjorker]

Originally Posted by rightkindofme

Yay! I've always wanted to have a friend on MDC but so far I seem unpopular.

Well I will be your friend, teehee. I really love what you said.