Night weaning questions

[Honey693]

Last night was awful. DD was up screaming every hour. She doesn't have any teeth coming in, I don't think it's a growth spurt, and I'm pretty sure she just hates me. That being said DH and I have decided to night wean starting Friday. I'm exhausted and cranky so much of the time and DD needs a happy mom more than she needs 3am boobs. We're using eh Jay Gordon plan, but there's a few things I don't get. It says not to let her fall asleep nursing in the plan for the first three nights. Well at 3am in the dark how do I know she's asleep? What do I do if she won't go back to sleep? And would it be better for DH to comfort her back to sleep or me?

[ihathi]

Originally Posted by Crystal_R

And would it be better for DH to comfort her back to sleep or me?

Hi Crystal.* I'm actually not 100% familiar w/ Jay Gordon's method, but we painlessly nightweaned both my two boys at about 18 mo.* I just wanted to suggest that, in our experience, it was always easier for the nightweaning process for DH to take over the "getting them back to sleep" part.* After a lifetime of nursing back to sleep w/ me, it seemed nearly impossible for them to be awake and close to me at night w/o wanting to nurse.* In fact, our "method" mostly involved me going out to sleep on the couch for a few weeks while DH and the boys worked it out.* Then, I'd come in to nurse once the sun was up... in fact, I still do this w/ DS2.