DH not on board with nursing past infancy... - Page 3

[hylndlas]

I'm glad to find this thread. I'm about to have the SAME exact fight with my husband. So this thread has been very helpful to me.

Hopefully I can talk some sense into him......if not I hope I can just nurse her when he isn't around.

[bobandjess99]

If this were your first post or something, my answer would be different, but I've been following the saga and this is yet anotehr example of how bad your relationship is.

[Sasha299]

You should not have to justify nursing your babe to your husband. Discuss yes but not defend or "fight" about it. You also should not have to hide and nurse your child, esp not in your own home.

PS that your DH does not like it that you research everything and are informed is a HUGE red flag. It suggests he has an underlying insecurity.

[SpiderMum]

I just tell him "How about you take it up with the World Health Organization and get back to me on that"

[MaterPrimaePuellae]

I haven't read the other replies, but we had a similar situation. I understood how my husband felt, because I was ambivalent about nursing and also thought nursing past infancy was "weird".... until I had my daughter and actually experienced what nursing was like.

What I did was say, "I understand why you feel that way, but I think she's still too young. Every situation is different." Also, I stopped nursing in front of him. What he didn't see he didn't seem to think too much about. I kept doing that until DD was 27 months old, and really, after she was 12-18 months or so, he stopped bring it up.

Good luck!

[Gentle~Mommy :)]

My husband was the same way, he just didn't 'get it' and was uncomfortable, we had several huge fights about it, but eventually he backed down. He is not the boss of me, and has no right to control my body or the needs of my son (now sons)

My oldest is almost 5 and is still nursing 2 or 3 times a day - more if he is sick or upset or whatever and my youngest is 3 and nurses often in the day.

My advice, put your foot down. What's he going to do, leave? divorce you? lol

[Sativarain1]

It's your body, simple.
If it brings your daughter comfort and nutrition then reallly it's nobody business, including your husbands. I'd personally say one time it benefits your dd to continue and drop it. It then becomes 'his' problem and no longer yours.
Besides doens't Unicef and WHO recommend nursing till at least 2 years old.
12 months is still a baby.