Not intended to be offensive. Due to some strong reactions, I'll remove it.
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11/6/09 at 3:03pm
It is cultural. I have observed it most often with the Mexican and Filipino people in my life and have heard them describe this relaxed attitude toward time as "Mexican time" or "Filipino time", but I had a friend who went to Ireland and said not only was everyone she met there the same way, but no matter how far away something was, if it took less than half a day to get there on foot, it was described as "a half hour walk" .
You just have to be flexible. Have snacks ready for kids if a meal takes a long time to prepare, let your kids know that if people are late you won't have time to do everything you want to do so they won't be disappointed, and try to go with the flow.
LauraN, thanks for the reply. The original post was about my sister in law and her sister - not really my MIL. I really enjoy spending time with my sister in law, who lives in Mexico, and her sister, who recently moved from Mexico to our town. I look forward to doing things with them, and we all have young kids who love to be together - but I get super bugged that they are always really late. My initial reaction was that it was rude, but obviously, I know they are coming form a different perspective on this and knowing them as individuals, I know they are not trying to be rude. I was looking for others perspectives on how others handled it and some insight into it so I could see it from a different perspective and then not let it bother me so much. I had always felt like my MIL, because she has been a part of both cultures, could probably share her experiences and insight, but was hesitant to talk to her about it because I didn't want it to seem like I was complaining about my SIL (also her daughter in law, too). Anyways, I appreciate hearing different perspectives.
I didnt see the first post...but i get a just of what it was about......I am an American mama living in Mexico with my Mexican husband.....When we have a party...event...gathering...we say the event will start about 5ish or 6ish....We dont really give a certain time to it. They will show up when they do...and we are always so thankful that people want to come to our house and enjoy our company.
Now....In the states...everything seems to be on time and if your late...well then you miss what ever the event is. But if it's an gathering at one's home...then you have room to be felxible...and be thankful for whomever shows up.
I think is a cultural thing....seeing both sides...having lived here in Mexico and the US.
I love the laid backness of living in Mexico....I never feel in a rush...everything happens when it's supposed to happen.
Now i feel a suddden rush when i land on US soil....i feel rushed...feel stressed. It's interesting!