My babies were due March 31. By mid-December I was as big as a full-term singleton pregnancy. So I'd hear, "Christmas baby?" "No, twins in March." "Oh, you'll never make it that far! You're so big already!!!" I realize it was strangers making conversation, they didn't really care when my babies were born and weren't thinking that what they were actually saying was that I'd have preemies in the NICU, but it was totally irritating.
And, because I'm small to begin with (5'3" 100 lbs), everyone seems to think I can't carry the twins to term. So, it upsets me greatly, much the same as you're saying. And, the bedrest comment! ARGH! I don't want to be on bedrest. There's no indication I will be. It just makes me wonder, are that many twin mommies put on bedrest that they consider it the norm?
And I feel for you attached2mason. Many of my friends have gone through IVF. But I don't have twins in my family either so I can't even say that. I just don't want them to assume IVF (because, yes, sadly there is a stigma).
I just can't stand that people can be so rude. Yes, I'm huge. Okay, got it.