Just wonderful! I have mandated reporters coming in the morning and my house is distroyed!

[Satori]

I've had a really bad day pain wise and have just been exhausted today. I mean difficult to get out of bed exhausted and in pain. So I spent most of the day watching movies in my office so the kids could have the sleeping room. Usually I do so out in the living room but since that computer started giving off a burning smell and some sparks and stuff this morning I'm not about to turn that computer back on and used the office where I could at least lay down.

The kids TOTALLY RIPPED THE HOUSE APART!!!!! 4 loads of laundry I needed put away is now strewn across my living room, they dragged out every toy possible, the couch is in pieces and they even moved a heavy desk! I can't figure out how they caused this level of destruction without making enough noises to alert me something was up! They even dug out the xmas decorations and have lights strung across the living room!

The sleeping room, I don't even know where to begin! They took the book shelf apart! I can't even walk in there

I get dd (9) into the shower and she started a bath from the shower which is a huge no no in this house for 1 single reason. She of course started splashing and by the time I got her out of there I had 1" of water on the floor and it was flooded all the way to the carpet and the walls and everything else is soaked.

The living room and the bathroom were clean this morning, I now have several hours of cleaning ahead of me tonight all because I was in so much pain today I trusted that my kids were watching movies like they said they were

My only saving grace is the fact that tomorrow our full time in home nursing starts so I will have help in preventing this crap!!!

Now I am going to take some pain killers, drink a very large cappuccino and watch an ep of hoarders for extra motivation to get all this cleaned up tonight

[Krisis]

How old are they? I'd be waking them up and making them help clean up the mess they made. Sheesh.

Good luck mama.

[Satori]

Mama's, angry doesn't even begin to cover how I'm feeling right now, I'm feeling frustrated and defeated by my own children! I'm picking up clothes only to find they put banana's in them and smashed them! All the laundry I had done has to be re washed because I was in to much pain and exhausted to get up this morning before the kids to put it away. I am barely getting any sleep due to the 3 yr olds medical needs and I'm accepting the fact its time for a gtube so I can sleep. I just can't function anymore having my sleep interrupted every 1-2 hours all night long. As I'm trying to clean the 3 yr old is just making more messes! I am just, I don't know if I should or or what, I feel like doing both! I just can not keep up with this constant destruction, I have been working my butt off to keep this house clean and in a single day the kids have completely destroyed it

[Satori]

Originally Posted by Krisis

How old are they? I'd be waking them up and making them help clean up the mess they made. Sheesh.

Good luck mama.

I wish I could but it would just lead to my losing my temper, I can't get these kids to clean for nothing. It doesn't matter what I do or take away or what ever. They think its funny, my 9 yr old is Bipolar and spends a lot of time manic, she's been doing fantastic all week until today, she refused to take her little cocktail and this house was the result. She gets the 3 yr old all riled up with her and the 2 just feed off each others energy

[pacificbliss]

How frustrating!
If I read your post right you have a 9 year old and a 3 year old? They would both be helping me clean.

[Satori]

Originally Posted by pacificbliss

How frustrating!
If I read your post right you have a 9 year old and a 3 year old? They would both be helping me clean.

Usually there idea of cleaning leads to even bigger messes. Believe me, I've had days where I spend all day losing my temper and yelling and it doesn't do a bit of good and they just make even bigger messes. A couple of days ago the 9 yr old asked to change the sheets on her bed, I reluctantly agreed. The result? She took all the books off the book shelf, moved the shelf then moved the bed where the shelf was. I blew my lid and did a lot of yelling and demanded she put it back the way it was all day long. yeah, its still the way she changed it to and all the books are spread all over the place and getting messed up. I'm sick of having to lock everything up because of this crap but I'm about ready to lock down the house again.

[mommaof3boz]

You have the two kids? Or is there others that haven't come up in the posts?

I know your trying to get the home nursing but I think you need help. Is there anyone who could come for a couple of hours a day so you could take a nap and rest without worry they will destroy the house?

Honestly at nine that is ridiculous. I of course do not know the true picture with the child and all her problems. But it seems to an outsider as over the top out of control. I am not saying my nine yr old is perfect but never in a million yrs would he do something like that.

How do you stay sane? I'm being serious. With your own physical issues and everything.

Heres a hug and maybe a bottle of wine cause I think ya need it.

[Satori]

Originally Posted by mommaof3boz

You have the two kids? Or is there others that haven't come up in the posts?

I know your trying to get the home nursing but I think you need help. Is there anyone who could come for a couple of hours a day so you could take a nap and rest without worry they will destroy the house?

Honestly at nine that is ridiculous. I of course do not know the true picture with the child and all her problems. But it seems to an outsider as over the top out of control. I am not saying my nine yr old is perfect but never in a million yrs would he do something like that.

How do you stay sane? I'm being serious. With your own physical issues and everything.

Heres a hug and maybe a bottle of wine cause I think ya need it.

I don't stay sane and there is no one to help. I will have help with the 3 yr (special needs) old 8 hours a day M-W-F and she will be gone to daycare all day T-TH or at least this is what I'm told. I know the T-TH thing is set because its been set for a while because I'm gone at school. The nurse will have orders to keep her busy and separated from the 9yr old who is currently giving me an attitude about cleaning up in the mess. My mother and her DH will be here to pick her up in a few minutes and I will let them lecture her as she seems to listen to them. Its days like this I want to send her back to live with them.



You don't want to know what I just found picking up the clothes but oh yeah, my parents will be having a very long discussion with her. She at least listens to them, I just get attitude. She was doing so well this past week until yesterday Mania SUCKS! What really sucks if the fact its so easy to control in her if she takes her cocktail!

[Satori]

Well she just took her cocktail without a fight and my mom picked her up. I have 1 hour to shower and get at least the living room looking presentable, wish me luck, god knows I will need it!

[UptownZoo]

Yeah, you know, my bipolar kiddo is a mess machine, too. Drives me right out of my tree. How he can mess up every single room in our big old house is pretty much beyond me, but he manages. This morning, I got up to find ants everywhere in the kitchen because sometime last evening (after the kitchen was all cleaned up, so no one noticed) he spilled strawberry syrup. The laundry, dishes, toys, and miscellaneous debris he leaves in his wake - it takes my breath away. I wish I had a solution to share, but if you saw my house, you'd know I have none! I struggle just to keep us functional; I wrote a post on another thread about the basic daily minimum routine I try to maintain.

After you get past this crisis with the visit, I'd focus on finding some way to get your DD to take her meds every day. Honestly, life with my DS ON meds is plenty difficult; w/o meds it's unbearable for all of us, and often downright dangerous. Maybe we can brainstorm over at the SN board? I'd flat out bribe her with candy, but that's just me.

[mommaof3boz]

Satori-how did it go? I agree with PP you need to find someway to ensure she takes her meds every single day. But its always easy to play a ballgame here in the bleachers lol.

[Satori]

Originally Posted by UptownZoo

After you get past this crisis with the visit, I'd focus on finding some way to get your DD to take her meds every day. Honestly, life with my DS ON meds is plenty difficult; w/o meds it's unbearable for all of us, and often downright dangerous. Maybe we can brainstorm over at the SN board? I'd flat out bribe her with candy, but that's just me.

This morning I got them down her by mixing it in lemonade, I think that might be the faster way rather the the smoothie.

Originally Posted by mommaof3boz

Satori-how did it go? I agree with PP you need to find someway to ensure she takes her meds every single day. But its always easy to play a ballgame here in the bleachers lol.

Well I managed to get the living room not looking like a tornado hit it to badly, the floor was clean and vacuumed but I am seriously ticked that I have to rewash all that laundry. The boss lady recommended to the nurse that she "help me clean up or at least help do the laundry" I had about 5 loads sitting by the washer needing to be rewashed

I can't believe how much I got done in the 30 min before they got here. I spent the rest of the day cooking and doing laundry and dishes. Its almost 7pm, the nurse left at 5pm, I'm wiped out and still have to bake muffins and bread for tomorrow Still have another couple loads of laundry to wash too. Won't have time tomorrow, gotta hit the ground running and out the door and won't get back home until around 8pm so its going to look like I stopped working as soon as the nurse left which is totally not the case. Time to drink another cup of coffee I think, need to stay awake at least another 2 hours then start my day again at 6am

On the upside the 3 yr old adores her new nurse and kept her busy all day so I only had to deal with the attitude copping 9 yr old. I had to laugh, I warned the nurse she was a runner, guess she didn't believe me when she took her outside. When they came back in the 3 yr old informed me Mrs E was going to wear her running shoes tomorrow so she can catch me Wisdom says never wear clogs when your caring for a 3 yr old

wow, was working on this post and got side tracked, the bedroom which was impassable today is ready for vacuuming

[mommaof3boz]

awesome work. especially now that the nurse is coming maybe you can catch a little breath.

Is your 9yr old homeschooled?

[Dr.Worm]

Glad you got so much work done! I'm sorry you have all that to deal with. Where do you live?

[Satori]

Originally Posted by mommaof3boz

awesome work. especially now that the nurse is coming maybe you can catch a little breath.

Is your 9yr old homeschooled?

Yes she is HS'd. Things will calm down I think, just will be a little busy the next couple days.

Originally Posted by Dr.Worm

Glad you got so much work done! I'm sorry you have all that to deal with. Where do you live?

On the other side of the US

[~Leonor~]

I am sorry you were in pain. I do think a 9 year old is too young to watch a 3 year old unsupervised. I have a 3 year old and know that they can little tornadoes in all their innocence. I wouldn't get mad, although I understand the frustration. She's still a little kid herself

[Madders]

Are both of your children special needs?
I agree with the above poster that they need to be supervised. I know how hard it is with health issues, but you can't expect them to NOT act like young children when they are unsupervised. Every child will destroy a house when they have no one watching and nothing "better" to do.

Is there anyone who can help you care for them during the day? At those ages (and especially with their special needs), they NEED supervision.

[lalaland42]

How frustrating!

This isn't the first thread where you've talked about your DD's desire to rearrange the furniture. Perhaps one of those interior decorating computer programs would be a positive outlet for her creativity.

(((hugs)))

[Satori]

Originally Posted by lalaland42

How frustrating!

This isn't the first thread where you've talked about your DD's desire to rearrange the furniture. Perhaps one of those interior decorating computer programs would be a positive outlet for her creativity.

(((hugs)))

lol, you just made me choke on my coffee She actually plays a lot on those programs, she wants to be a designer when she grows up. I just wish she would stick to the programs. Some days I feel like bolting everything to the floor to keep it where I put it. I can see explaining THAT one to the rental company when we move out

[Satori]

Originally Posted by Madders

Are both of your children special needs?
I agree with the above poster that they need to be supervised. I know how hard it is with health issues, but you can't expect them to NOT act like young children when they are unsupervised. Every child will destroy a house when they have no one watching and nothing "better" to do.

Is there anyone who can help you care for them during the day? At those ages (and especially with their special needs), they NEED supervision.

They were not totally unsupervised, I could hear them and saw them every few minutes coming in and out of the room. The noise level did not indicate the level of destruction going on. Either way it won't happen again, at least not on a week day since we now have full time help.