Need good thoughts

[Dmitrizmom]

I go back to work today.

I will be at the office in an hour and am working a regular length day from 8-6 with an hour for lunch.

Dh will be bringing Vivienne to me at lunch time to nurse and I'm taking my pump to express milk every 2 hours.

I don't want to leave my baby.

[2boyzmama]

Good thoughts coming your way! I have two more weeks before I go back, and I'm sure it'll be hard for me, too! Thankfully you seem to have a busy job, which will help take your mind off of missing your baby!!

I often call my husband when I'm pumping to talk about the day, how the baby's doing, how much baby took from the bottle, etc. That helped me express more. I'm having very successful pumping sessions at home so far, and the last two times my output actually increased when I went back to work, so I'm not worried about that, but it's a trick I keep "up my sleeve" in case I need more milk!

How's your husband doing?

[Dmitrizmom]

well... I'm home... I was pretty much invited to quit during a brief meeting this am with Doc, his wife and their consultant. I have to give them an answer, in writing, by 7:30 tomorrow morning.

I will be scrambling for the rest of today to see what my options are.

[confustication]

Originally Posted by Dmitrizmom

well... I'm home... I was pretty much invited to quit during a brief meeting this am with Doc, his wife and their consultant. I have to give them an answer, in writing, by 7:30 tomorrow morning.

I will be scrambling for the rest of today to see what my options are.

"Invited to quit" sounds like they want to avoid paying unemployment. I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well- but I advise you really look at your options here, and make sure you don't get put in a position that won't helpyou in the long-term. Given this economy and unemployment rates- there's not a chance I would choose to quit and give up unemployment as a back-up.

[cristeen]

Originally Posted by Dmitrizmom

well... I'm home... I was pretty much invited to quit during a brief meeting this am with Doc, his wife and their consultant. I have to give them an answer, in writing, by 7:30 tomorrow morning.

And if you don't? Honestly, if your choices are quit or be fired, I'd take firing in this economy... At least then you can collect unemployment.

[confustication]

fwiw... I was in a very similar situation after my last baby. I wound up having about 3 months more than I planned to have off, but we made it through and I find myself in a MUCH better (and more friendly!) position. Sometimes things like this work out very well in the end.

[bicyclingbethany]

What a terrible day back!

Don't let 'em push you around...hope you figure out what the best plan is.

[indigoscot]

ddc crashing to say - don't quit! let them fire you. this type of crap happened at my dp's place of work with 3 other coming back to work after baby moms and it just makes me mad.

hugs to you, i hope you can work something out.

g

[2boyzmama]

I know you were having issues before you had the baby, but why did they ambush you with this this morning? You'd think that your maternity leave could have served as a "cooling off" period and you could come back with a clean slate, so to speak (I am not in any way saying any of it was your fault, it sounds like there are issues there from your descriptions!!!)

Anyway, I agree that you shouldn't quit unless you literally have another job offer in hand. Go back, tell them that your family can't afford for you to quit right now, but that you will be looking for other prospects, and you intend to fulfill your contract until ...

Wait a minute...you have a contract (you said something about the pay not being what was promised, yet it was in line with the minimum on your contract??) so what does your contract say? THAT'S why they're "inviting" you to quit, I bet they don't have anything disciplinary on you to fire you under the terms of your contract. You could try to negotiate this...negotiate some kind of severance pay maybe? Or even severance pay AND unemployment?

[StrongFeather]

oh my a horrible first day back! I hope you figure out the best path for you and your family.

[Julia24]

ugh! What a terrible first day. Keep us posted on how this all plays out.
You'd be surprised what you can 'make work' when you have a baby you'd rather be home with.

When Maddie was a baby and I went back part time (they didn't want me to, but I said I was using my FMLA 2 days a week until it was gone and used that time to try to negotiate permanent part time) I got a nastygram from my boss saying I should've returned to work full time already and it was his expectation that I start immediately (big bully) I promptly quit.

I really shouldn't have, we really didn't have the money....but we made enough for groceries and rent and the rest of it be damned as far as I was concerned. It was WORTH it! My first baby was only going to be a baby once and I wanted to be the one with her for every moment. (no offense to the working moms - I just couldn't do it - though now, on my third, I see the value in a coffee kidless break, wearing nice clothes and maybe reading the paper? Not starting over in my career someday.....it goes both ways)