I am in my early 40s and previously had skin similar to what you are describing: combination tending towards oily. Then, I started getting dry patches with the oil slicks. What a mess!
My hormones were out of whack and my cycles were off course. I worked with an Ayurveda practitioner and she had me working on my digestive system and reproductive system to get things back in order. For my face, she specifically told me to use rosewater in as many products as possible. (I'll share my products below.) While I was detoxing, my face (and skin in general) still showed signs of distress but it also started evening out in terms of oily and dry patches. Now, my skin is "normal"...not even combination anymore, no oil slicks and no dry patches, just moist, soft skin. I am still detoxing, though, so I still have some visual imperfections so I cannot use the word "clear" to describe my skin.
Here is what I use:
Jason rosewater hand & face soap
Heritage rosewater (as a toner and pick-me-up spritzer and light moisturizer)
I created my own blend of oils for my eye area (sweet almond oil, rosehip seed oil, vitamin E). I just use 1-2 drops spread between my two ring fingers and applied gently around the eyes.
Then, I use a few drops of unrefined coconut oil spread among my fingers over my entire face, neck, and décolletage. I live in a warm climate and my coconut oil hasn't solidified just yet, so I have it in a amber bottle with a dropper. I am about to place an order for a small jar (among other bottles/jars for all my own concoctions) and I will put some of my coconut oil in that. When it solidifies, I'll just dip my fingers into the tiny jar (half-ounce) and let the CO warm up and liquidify before applying. Since it is a small amount, I am not concerned about contaminating it. I wouldn't want to stick my fingers into the main jar repeatedly, though.