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post #1 of 9
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH:angr y
sorry i just really needed to do that and seeing as how my three kids would probably be terrified if i did it out loud, i figured i could do it here.

I just talked to one of the worst midwives ever!! UGH! people like her are tone of the biggest reasons i decided to do a homebirth in the first place. No surprise to find out that she has been doing hospital births exclusively for the last ten years and i am so effing emotional thatshe had me in tears b/c according to her i am not as dedicated to this pregnancy/child as she would be and so she doesn't feel like she should take me on. Ah, hello i wasn't asking her to i just had a few questions about baby's HR and my BP, and if she knew a place where i could rent a cheap fetal doppler. Instead i get her whole shpeil on how dangerous it is and how terrible i am, and my husband more so than me for not making more money, for not saving more money to pay a midwife. Also told me she couldn't believe that i would spend money on a doppler but not a midwife and that i was behaving stupidly. Oh yeah and supposedly we are supposed to take our tax money that is due at the end of the year(my husband is a sub-contractor) and spend that on a midwife. Her exact phrasing was: "So let me get this straight, you are choosing to pay the government money instead of paying a midwife to attend your homebirth, is that the picture you're trying to paint for me?" all in the most degrading voice you can imagine. Stupid me didn't hang up on her b/c somewhere in my brain i still have all those good manners instilled in me by my Aunt(practically raised me). thanks for listening to me rant.
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH:angr y
sorry i just really needed to do that and seeing as how my three kids would probably be terrified if i did it out loud, i figured i could do it here.

I just talked to one of the worst midwives ever!! UGH! people like her are tone of the biggest reasons i decided to do a homebirth in the first place. No surprise to find out that she has been doing hospital births exclusively for the last ten years and i am so effing emotional thatshe had me in tears b/c according to her i am not as dedicated to this pregnancy/child as she would be and so she doesn't feel like she should take me on. Ah, hello i wasn't asking her to i just had a few questions about baby's HR and my BP, and if she knew a place where i could rent a cheap fetal doppler. Instead i get her whole shpeil on how dangerous it is and how terrible i am, and my husband more so than me for not making more money, for not saving more money to pay a midwife. Also told me she couldn't believe that i would spend money on a doppler but not a midwife and that i was behaving stupidly. Oh yeah and supposedly we are supposed to take our tax money that is due at the end of the year(my husband is a sub-contractor) and spend that on a midwife. Her exact phrasing was: "So let me get this straight, you are choosing to pay the government money instead of paying a midwife to attend your homebirth, is that the picture you're trying to paint for me?" all in the most degrading voice you can imagine. Stupid me didn't hang up on her b/c somewhere in my brain i still have all those good manners instilled in me by my Aunt(practically raised me). thanks for listening to me rant.
Um, wow! I almost don't know what to say to that. Except a lot of bad words. How dare she insinuate that your husband is at fault! What a bag! I would call her back up and tell her she is a bag and that I'm sure the IRS would be thrilled to know she is providing such sound financial advice to people. What a witch.
post #3 of 9
Complain to the state licensing board.
post #4 of 9
Exactly! I'm not a huge complainer but my mouth was open for your entire post. I cannot believe she had the gall to say any of that! Seriously. Call and complain because what she did is way over the line of anything deemable "professional".
post #5 of 9
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i think i will, she was saying that she had to get some signature so that she could i guess upgrade her status as a midwife or something. maybe if she can't get it for being so unprofessional she might reconsider being such a bitch. thanks to her i have been having nice strong BH/ ctx for the last hour or so. it did feel good to scream, even if it was online.
post #6 of 9
Whoa, that's crazy.

Did you ask her if she would be willing to take on a client and be paid the same as what it costs to rent a doppler?

Sorry you had to go through that.
post #7 of 9
Pregnant women (and human beings in general) shouldn't ever have to be treated like that! Sorry you had that encounter!

Just to clarify, are you planning an unassisted birth? I love the idea of unassisted. We have pregnancy medicaid this time (have you looked into that?) and are using a midwife, but I am falling more and more under the spell of doing my own births without "assistance." Maybe I'll ask the midwife to wait in the other room while I birth!
post #8 of 9
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[QUOTE=AdasmommyJust to clarify, are you planning an unassisted birth? [/QUOTE]
yes i am planning a UC. and no i can't get preggo medicaid.
post #9 of 9
Well don't let her words stay with you very long. We all know that baby's coming out whether you pay a midwife or not! I'm sure you'll have more fun unassisted than you'd have with a midwife like her!
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