Originally Posted by Disco Infiltrator
toddlers are so crazy - they're stuck between baby and child, they're entire world is about them making the decision and opposing us, they're CRAZY. Our DS basically refuses to eat unless HE has come up with the food choice. Most recently he decided to lie on the ground of the drug store parking lot screaming because he didn't want to go home. We just stood there until he was done and attempted to stifle our giggles at his total ridiculousness, and at least appeared to take him seriously.
One think I can suggest to parents of boys - they don't like to be looked in the eye. I don't bother even attempting to make DS look at me when I want to get a point across. I just hold him and talk into his ear. It reduces a lot of my frustration. Also, toddlers will hear you but not respond to your request right away, so even if they appear to be not listening, they are, and they may do what you requested at some point in the future. Lastly, I try to remember that whatever DS is upset about or is oppositional about really is important to HIM. It is life and death in his mind. That helps me maintain my empathy for him.
Thank you for those great points! Yes toddlers are CRAZY!
This morning DS ran off after I got his clothes and diaper together.
Me: "Julian come get dressed"
Julian: - Running off like a mad man in the opposite direction "No"
Me- "Do you want to see Grandma and Grandpa?"
J- Happily "Yesh" - Turns around and starts following me to the bedroom.
M- "Ok then first diaper and clothes"
J - Crying out "No" and running to the door to bang against it "Poppa, Poppa, poppa"
M- "You want to see Grandpa?"
M- "You will, first diaper and clothes"
J- crying "yesh" bangs on door "Poppa, poppa...."
Then it is like a pig wrestling competition to diaper and dress him. If I can not get it all done in 30 secs then he is on the go and refuses to lie still.
I used to work as a Toddler teacher and had 5 toddlers in my group and used to have the patience of a saint but now I am just frustrated, angry mama more then I ever thought possible.
Again thanks for the reminders