DHs threat to call 911 & more of his unsupportiveness.. LONG. - Page 3

[MsBlack]

Well, sometimes people just need to have their breakdowns and freakouts before they can look at something reasonably....at least, I know there are times I do

Glad to hear he's coming around, taking his head out of, er, dark places, and putting it to good use toward a happy birthing day for you all.

[gossamerwindweb]

Originally Posted by terrabella

And the father of that child, my lover, my soul mate, the only person that I will ever have cildren with, the only person that I would ever want to raise children with, has EQUAL say in the well-being of HIS, OUR, child. Period.

I completely agree with this part. My husband has equal say and I am happy with that. He and I are a good team, he educates himself about things, and he is a very rational being. If he has a concern, it is very, VERY likely a legitimate concern, and not flying off the handle from being nervous. We make all parenting decisions this way.

HOWEVER, if I had a husband who was not a very rational being, didn't care to educate himself, or DID fly off the handle getting nervous, I think I would ultimately have to decide what I felt was best for the child in my body. So I agree with the OP doing what she feels is right whether her hubby is on board or not. And thankfully it sounds like he IS on board now *whew!*

[hakeber]

...HOWEVER, if I had a husband who was not a very rational being, didn't care to educate himself, or DID fly off the handle getting nervous, I think I would ...

divorce him?



I'm just saying.

Windy City mom, I am so glad your DH has gotten over his temporary insanity and chosen to support you. Fear is such a violent motivator; it can cause even the most rational and calm person to say and do really f-ing stupid things. I'm glad that's all this turned out to be. I'd hate the idea of any woman being afraid to labor in peace, of feeling the need to hide their labor pains to avoid marshal law in her own home.

After you are done kissing him for getting over his fear and stepping up to the plate as a good husband and a supportive partner, smack him up the backside of his head for being such a dummy, for me, wouldya?

[Serenyd]

Glad to hear things are working out for you with your DH and your birth plans.
Keep us posted!

Originally Posted by WindyCityMom

I totally agree with MsBlack on never having seen a woman making a birthing choice soley for herself (on these boards, anyhow. IRL I do see it, unfortunately).

Anyhow, here's the news DH says he had done alot of thinking, and he is on board!! We were discussing some things last night, and I went into more detail about being alone during labor, and about my possiblity of me just hiding out in the bathroom for most of it (which is where I go when I need alone time anyhow). He said that it's fine, that he'd be there to take care of DD, etc. He gave me these huge puppy dog eyes and said "B-but, I can be there for her birth, right?" And I happily said "Of course!".

He's also very intent on me letting him know when I think I'm in labor so that he can come home from work. He really doesn't want to miss it. He also told me that I'm going to need a ton of help with DD as well. He's even buying special puzzles for them to work on during the big day, just to keep her out of trouble.

He also expressed to me how awesome it'd be to have the baby on Christmas Eve or Christmas- that it would be wonderful to be able to open presents with DD xmas morning with the greatest gift of all

[joyousbirther]

I'm glad to hear that things are looking up for you. I agree with MsBlack that sometimes people just need to get the freak out over with before they can look at things straight on.

I hope that everything goes just the way you want it to. :-)

[WindyCityMom]

Thanks again everyone for being there for me!

I will keep you all posted