I am at a total lost and feeling emotionally drained and terrible. 
I am 10 wks pregnant and nursing my 18 mth DS. My plan was always to nurse him until he was at least 2 and basically let him wean himself. I have always loved our nursing relationship, but for the past few weeks have been beyond uncomfortable when nursing him down in bed. Most times, the minute he latches on I seem to have a hormonal reaction...I get all hot and sweaty, SUPER irritable, and have to really control myself not to swat his hands away from my face and breast, snap, and yell. I feel so terrible feeling this way towards him and hate the harsh words that escape my mouth. I don't want our nursing relationship, bedtime, or our relationship in general to be negative or hurtful. It really breaks my heart
All that being said....what I have tried is...
Beginning some gentle nightweaning. I still nurse him in bed and sometimes he will get his fill of milk, roll over and is happy to snuggle to sleep, but others, especially for his nap he just insists on keeping the nipple in his mouth until he is absolutely 100% out. I'll tell him "almost all done" wait maybe 10-15 secs and then take it out if he doesn't roll over on his own. I'm usually so tired and uncomfortable that it pushes me to the edge if he refuses to let go and at the same time I just don't have it in me to let him cry. He gets soooo worked up, so quickly! At night, he is still waking a lot in the 2nd 1/2 of the night (after sleeping for 5-6 hrs). He usually will nurse for just a few sec and roll over when I tell him all done, but seems to be hungry around 4 or at least insists on nursing longer. I used to be able to sleep through nursing, but since becoming pregnant, end up laying awake forever.
I've also tried nursing him on the couch (since that never seems to bother me) and then taking him into bed to snuggle and sing to sleep. Lets just say we both ended up in tears and nobody napped that day.
I would love for my DH to be more involved in the going to sleep part of bedtime (right now he gives him a bath and reads books, then I take over), but DS is hysterical if I'm not in bed with them and nurse him in bed.
Sorry this is the longest post ever! I think I just really need to vent, hear that someone else has been through the same, and maybe find some suggestions on how to get us both through this rough patch. I really want to keep nursing him and feel like he needs it too, but something needs to change so that bedtime is a pleasant experience, feelings don't get too hurt, and I don't continue feeling like the worst mama ever.
I am 10 wks pregnant and nursing my 18 mth DS. My plan was always to nurse him until he was at least 2 and basically let him wean himself. I have always loved our nursing relationship, but for the past few weeks have been beyond uncomfortable when nursing him down in bed. Most times, the minute he latches on I seem to have a hormonal reaction...I get all hot and sweaty, SUPER irritable, and have to really control myself not to swat his hands away from my face and breast, snap, and yell. I feel so terrible feeling this way towards him and hate the harsh words that escape my mouth. I don't want our nursing relationship, bedtime, or our relationship in general to be negative or hurtful. It really breaks my heart
All that being said....what I have tried is...
Beginning some gentle nightweaning. I still nurse him in bed and sometimes he will get his fill of milk, roll over and is happy to snuggle to sleep, but others, especially for his nap he just insists on keeping the nipple in his mouth until he is absolutely 100% out. I'll tell him "almost all done" wait maybe 10-15 secs and then take it out if he doesn't roll over on his own. I'm usually so tired and uncomfortable that it pushes me to the edge if he refuses to let go and at the same time I just don't have it in me to let him cry. He gets soooo worked up, so quickly! At night, he is still waking a lot in the 2nd 1/2 of the night (after sleeping for 5-6 hrs). He usually will nurse for just a few sec and roll over when I tell him all done, but seems to be hungry around 4 or at least insists on nursing longer. I used to be able to sleep through nursing, but since becoming pregnant, end up laying awake forever.
I've also tried nursing him on the couch (since that never seems to bother me) and then taking him into bed to snuggle and sing to sleep. Lets just say we both ended up in tears and nobody napped that day.
I would love for my DH to be more involved in the going to sleep part of bedtime (right now he gives him a bath and reads books, then I take over), but DS is hysterical if I'm not in bed with them and nurse him in bed.
Sorry this is the longest post ever! I think I just really need to vent, hear that someone else has been through the same, and maybe find some suggestions on how to get us both through this rough patch. I really want to keep nursing him and feel like he needs it too, but something needs to change so that bedtime is a pleasant experience, feelings don't get too hurt, and I don't continue feeling like the worst mama ever.
I know exactly how you feel. Basically I didn't hesitate to wean (day and night) but I realize that's not what you want. I know people have pushed through it though so hopefully they will chime in soon!
