My husband was all the support I could ever ask for with my labor. He was just amazing and the nurses/midwives (not to mention me, of course!) all loved him for it. I did not get to push my baby out, but I did labor to 10 and then push for 9 hours naturally and there is no way on earth I could have done it without him.
That said, my mom was also there. She provided him breaks (he was putting counterpressure on my back - poor guy's hands hurt for days.
), brought both of us drinks/snacks, and occasionally piped up to give us her opinion. She was invaluable too. Now, even though she was awesome outwardly, the fact that we had to transfer (non-emergency) really scared and shook her and I am not sure she will be at the next birth (HBAC).
If she is not there, we are having a doula, no two ways about it. I am sure I cold do it just DH and me, but a doula will just make it so much easier. And the doula I would pick is also a Bradley coach, so she is all about the mom/dad energy and just being peripheral support.
|I really don't think it's fair to expect your partner to support you for that long with no breaks, then turn around and help you out with the first few days of newborn life. If you're in doubt, be prepared.
I kind of agree. I think we expect "good" or "involved" husbands to take care of wife and baby after birth and mom is just expected to rest. Dad has been through the wringer too. After my labor and then transfer and cesarean, we was twice as wiped as I was. He crashed for 13 hours as soon as we were in recovery, while I stayed up for another 8 hours and only slept in tiny spurts for the next 24 hours (and didn't really feel tired). I think I may still have gotten the benefits of all the hormones. He refused to take more than a couple seconds break during labor, but he sure could have used one!