Who have you told?

[J. Jones]

Hello ladies!

Janie here, I think I'm at w5...BFP on Friday, lots of sore bb's and a big appetite for me. EDD 7/14 (Bastille Day!).

We never announced we were TCC...and our DS was born almost five years ago...everyone assumed he would be an only child.

Even though it's early, I couldn't resist sharing the news with my mom-in-law (my own mother is deceased), then I told dad-in-law (they're divorced), then sis-in-law, and tonight my own brother. Is it too early? I feel like I should spare them .... just in case ... but good news is hard to keep in.

So, my question: DO YOU TELL/ANNOUNCE YOUR BFP THIS EARLY?

[shoefairy3]

let see, my inlaws know and my DH called a few select aunts and uncles. But that is it

[ashleep]

3 friends. no family yet. I'll probably wait until around 8 weeks. If I can.

[WildinTheory]

No one yet. I just got a BFP tonight! DH is out of town and with our DS I told him on the phone and didn't want to do that again. It's still crazy early. I'm 3 w. 4 days so I'm still... adjusting to the idea.

[sheriwx]

Yep, we definitely tell family this early. Our reasoning is, if we DID lose the baby, we would want the support and love of our family during our hard time, rather than suffer alone.

As to telling friends, I don't know when we will.

[bjorker]

I'm 7w1d, so I've had a little bit of time.
I've told quite a few friends, but only a few family members. Actually only my mom, and she told my sister, and probably some other people.

My dad's side of the family will probably come over Thanksgiving.

[wavybrains]

I'm due the 15th so we're similar date-wise. With DD, by this point everyone other than my work knew--we just couldn't keep it in, we were elated after a long time trying. This time, we told his parents, my parents, and select friends, but we're waiting to broadcast it on facebook, my blog, work etc, extended family etc. It's kind of fun telling people one at a time, and also, I'm going with the strategy of who would I want to know if we had a loss--whose support would I need. I'm hoping to get an ultrasound for dates in early December and that's when we'll tell EVERYONE if everything is looking okay. I'm also waiting this time around b/c in the extended family, one much-awaited baby just arrived, and another is due to come very soon, and I don't want to take away from that at all. I feel much more pragmatic this time around.

[expat-mama]

I'll be 8 weeks on Thursday and we told my mom DH's mom, my sister and my best friend at around 4 weeks. We waited to tell everyone last time until 7 weeks, then I lost the baby 2 days after we told- so this time we figured we wanted to share the initial excitement no matter what happened because we really missed out on that last time. We'll probably tell everyone else once we're safely into the 2nd trimester.

[leanbh]

we've told our parents, and our siblings, and our closest friends. we are thinking of telling extended family at thanksgiving but will only be 7 weeks along. might wait until after our first prenatal appointment.

[christinep1976]

I couldn't keep the news in and have told several of my closest friends, as has my husband. We've also told our immediate families. I figured as many others here, that if we m/c that we would want the support of these closest friends/family. I'm 5w4d now, and we have our second appt with the midwife at 10 weeks, so maybe after that one or after Christmas, we'll start spreading the news further.

My rule of thumb was that I told my husband not to tell anyone he wouldn't want to have to "un-tell" Here's to hoping that isn't necessary for any of us anyways!!!

[NotBroken]

I told my mom and dad. So far that's it.

[veesmimi]

After seeing the flickering heartbeat on screen (7wks exactly), I opened up our news to the first wave of folks we will tell... parents, siblings, close friends. Next wave will be in Dec, including work and our kids, closer to 12wks. It is so fun telling! I love it! But we're obviously holding back.... just a little.

[oddduck]

We've told lots and lots of family. DH seems very proud of his work I'm not really even sure how far along I am, and don't have a midwife appointment until early Dec - but everyone knows

[MissAnnThrope]

I've told one co-worker. She was the fist person for me to tell (even before dh). I had to tell someone and I trust her. I've told 4 other friends and the interwebs. But not Facebook yet as no family knows. I'm wanting to hold out until we hear the heart beat.

[brittneyscott]

I have told dh and that's it. Got the bfp monday and we haven't told anyone else yet. I think we'll wait a few more weeks before telling everyone at least until after the first appt. I think we'll probably wait and tell everyone together at Christmas.

[NWmt_mama]

DH, a family member who lives with us, and a very close friend. I'm only 5 wks. Usually I tell everyone really early, but we are going to wait (not sure how long) to tell everyone this time around! We just had our second m/c in August and everyone has finally started acting "normal" around me again and stopped worrying about me. Most likely we will tell family after our u/s in a few weeks. It is kinda fun to keep it a secret, too. Luckily I'm felling crappy!

[maranapanda]

I've told everyone and their mother. I am not the type to keep bad news to myself, in general, after I've had time to process... So I figure, what the hey, share the good!

[Romana]

We tell a few people who would be supportive and know when to keep their mouths shut if something went wrong. I've had 3 miscarriages and don't relish the insensitive comments one gets after a miscarriage.

So far we've told my MIL and SIL (dh's younger sister), my best friend, and one other (discreet) friend of mine. I feel the desire to shout it from the rooftops, but I know negative responses await us from some people and I don't want to hear those. Also, I don't want to tell work until January, so I have to be relatively discreet overall.

People who will give us negative responses, or who might be upset by the news, will be told in January also. That way, it won't ruin anyone's holiday (mine or theirs)!

ETA: Based on something she said yesterday, I think my 3 year old has figured it out, too, although we were going to wait to tell her.

[columbusmomma]

I've told DH(obviously!), my sister, and 1 friend. No one else for awhile!

[haleyelianasmom]

only dh at the moment. I've known for a bit over a week and I'm 4w4d now.