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post #121 of 147
Don't worry, ladies! Drink your caffinated drinks. I was just noticing that after two diet sodas this morning, I was shaky...that's the only reason I said "no caffiene". Drink away!

I am doing much better tonight.

It's amazing that after pushing my biggest, mildly dystocia baby out I have had barely any pain, no swelling, no tearing, etc....
post #122 of 147
Youngfrankenstein - that's awesome! (The feeling fine, not the soda jitters! )

My bleeding had stopped, and then whadya know today it came back. Red, too. All i did was go to see a lactation consultant and then to get some lunch with my mom and sister and then tidy house and cook dinner. Give me a break here.

I'm getting headaches every single evening. i don't know what that's about, but it is annoying as all get out.

Also, when my babe gets something resembling colicky, I put her in the sling and walk around. This helps when offering the breast doesn't help. My little girl loves being worn in the sling!

belltree -- Spice Girls?! Hilarious!! I play Coldplay "Yellow" for Annabelle. I made it her song when she had jaundice pretty bad and she was losing too much weight. I think the words fit her. And she seems to really like it.
post #123 of 147
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Does anyone have experience with colic?

Ds2 is so laid back for most of the day and through out the night...but he has a nightly bout of crying that lasts for at least an hour where it's almost impossible to console him. He acts like he wants the breast but latches and then screams and then goes back to rooting...it seems like he just wants to be comforted but nothing works. I've resorted to gas drops and gripe water but they only seem to help a little.

Other than this nightly activity, he is so content. He sleeps well, nurses well and rarely cries during the day.

Does this sound like colic?
We have the same EXACT issue. I don't know if it's 'colic' but it's frustrating none-the-less! It won't last forever, it won't last forever, it won't last forever....
post #124 of 147
The pulling away/colicky stuff could be silent reflux--? Or just un-burp-able gas, or even a reaction to something that you ate or are eating, perhaps. I have resorted to a paci a few times when Nik would NOt calm down and nothing I did would help. I have those Hyland's homeopathic colic tabs, and those seem to help sometimes too.

YAY YoungFrankenstein, congrats! I missed mention that you had your baby!

Bleeding, yea it's annoying--goes away but then comes back if I have to get anything done that requires effort At least it's only a teeny bit compared to all my anemic-postpartums!

Gah, babe's up again....thought I was gonna get some schoolwork done
post #125 of 147
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Does anyone have experience with colic?

Ds2 is so laid back for most of the day and through out the night...but he has a nightly bout of crying that lasts for at least an hour where it's almost impossible to console him.
My DD doesn't scream at night, but she will have a period where she will be fussy, but does not want to nurse for too long. What I figured out is that she wants to "play." I sit up (in bed) with her, put her on my legs, help her stand up, talk to her, etc. and then she is very content. This lasts a looong time, though (over an hour). When she is done, then I can nurse her and she'll go back to sleep.

IME, it's normal for a newborn to have their "awake" period at night since that's how it was for him/her for the last 9 months . . .but (yawn) I'M so tired!
post #126 of 147
I'm not sure I can do this! DD1 only sleeps at night, DD2 only sleeps during the day, and they are both fully convinced that it is their duty to make sure I am awake if they are. Throw into the mix that I need substantially more sleep than most people, and I am already losing my mind.
post #127 of 147
C-Momma, that sounds pretty normal to me. In fact, in working as a PP doula I most often work with families during the period of time I call the "witching hour" (or hours, really) Almost all babies have a cluster feed/fussy period in the evening. I've found that it's most often between the hours of 4 pm and 10 pm but it all depends. It's almost always during or right around dinner time, blah. It's true here, too... my baby has a fussy period in the evenings, at around 7-8 pm he wants nothing but for me to lay and bed and nurse him. I've resorted to going to bed pretty darn early. Thankfully DH is used to putting the other two to bed.

As far as colic. *shudder* My second DS was the very definition. I don't even want to think about that time. His "witching hour" was everything except the mornings, when he'd actually sleep. Looking back I think his was a GI issue of some sort, we never pursued talking to the Dr about reflux as I wasn't interested in medications. We sort of just did trial and error and survived, but it was awful. One thing that did help for a small amount of time for us was chiropractic. I think it's good to try for all "fussy" babies.

Dr Sears has a book called "The Fussy Baby book" that I think is a really good read-- even if just to find things to help calm your babe.

Another thought-- could you have overactive letdown? There's some good info on Kellymom that might help.

As for us... yesterday was a really good day. I got a pretty decent amount of sleep on Wed night, the baby took a good nap in the morning so I was able and motivated to get quite a bit done. Then got all three to take a nap at the same time, and my husband got home early. A friend brought dinner. Today is a completely 180... very little sleep between the baby and my oldest, the bus was late picking up my oldest one, baby has been fussy, and my two year old is bored out of his mind. It's 8 am, and I'm already just wanting this day to be done.
post #128 of 147
Vit D- I take 6,000 IU of D3 per day. My levels are getting there... slowly rising. They were at 47 when I was 38 weeks. An "ideal" level is supposed to be between 50-80, with level between 80-100 being ideal for nursing mothers.
post #129 of 147
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I'm not sure I can do this! DD1 only sleeps at night, DD2 only sleeps during the day, and they are both fully convinced that it is their duty to make sure I am awake if they are. Throw into the mix that I need substantially more sleep than most people, and I am already losing my mind.


Mama, you need to call in some reinforcements. When my son was a babe and wouldn't sleep and I felt myself slipping to the brink of insanity because of sleep deprivation, I had someone come over and amuse him for a couple of hours while I tried to catch up on some sleep. Otherwise I would have had some serious issues. Even an hour or two nap can make the world of difference. Try to find a family member or friend who can come over and play with dd1 while you catch a nap with dd2. I know sometimes it is hard to ask for help and sometimes it is easy to think there is no one to help, but that's what friends and family are for. I'd come over if I were nearby.
post #130 of 147
I'm having a good day. I've decided to go back into my own bed tonight. I've been sleeping downstairs on the "birth bed" (futon) and it's too hard for me. I always watch DVDs at night while I'm up nursing so I'll take my TV up to the nursery and get dh to put the chair up there. I hope things go well.

We had out first outting today. We went to see the ped. Everything is perfect. I know I haven't posted my birth story yet, things went great, I just don't have the gumption to do the story justice yet.

But the baby had a bit of an upper arm strain with her dystocia so she doesn't lift the arm up but the doc says it will heal up and didn't make us go through x-rays and stuff. I love my ped!
post #131 of 147
So...Ds1 is having an EXTREMELY difficult time adjusting to life with the baby and it's manifesting in a total, complete disruption of any sleep. I'm exhausted. My 3 year old sleeps less (at night) than the newborn.

Ds2 started his nightly bout of inconsolable wailing after Ds1 was asleep in bed and the commotion woke him. I coaxed him to lay with on the couch (where I was nursing, bouncing, rocking, attempting to soothe, entertain and console ds2) and he fell back asleep. Dh carried him to bed and we joined them after an hour or so. Ds1 writhed, kicked, whined and woke off and on for hours and when I woke at 3 to change ds2's poopy diaper and nurse him ds1 woke up as well. He stayed awake from 3-5:45 screaming and flailing about because I couldn't lay down with him (Ds2 was nursing and didn't want to be held by dh)...

Poor dh tried SO hard to help out but neither boy accepted his attempts. So he just sat up and talked calmly to ds1 who continued to scream.

PLEASE tell me this will settle down?! It's been two weeks. I know this a lot for his 3 yr old self to process and I am reminding myself of that all day and night.

I feel guilty for throwing him out of whack and for being SO frustrated by his behavior (which understandably reflects the major change to his life).

I love coffee. It will help me through this. I just know it will.
post #132 of 147
i went to the hospital last night. at nearly 1 month postpartum my bleeding went from nearly gone to heavy hand size clotting in large quantity and excessive bright red bleeding. i had read that bright red blood this far along was not good, and that hemorrhaging can occur anywhere before 6wks PP? - they took my blood and requested a urine sample. my blood levels appeared to be fine but i was really shocked, because i was saturating a pad every 20 minutes if not less, horribly. they said they could give me a pill to stop the bleeding but it could do more bad than good, so instead they gave me 800mlg ibuprofen.

here's the crazy part though; they think it's my PERIOD. this whole time i was thinking i would be one of the gals to go a really long time without having one, esp. still i also breastfeed and pump/express quite often. they advised me to pretty much do nothing but lay down, and if it got worse or continued in the next couple of days to merely contact my OB about it.

to say the least i thought i was going to bleed to death.
post #133 of 147
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PLEASE tell me this will settle down?! It's been two weeks. I know this a lot for his 3 yr old self to process and I am reminding myself of that all day and night.


YES, it will settle down! But only if you stop having children . . .they get so much easier when they get older. But then again, only for awhile. As people with older children tell me, little children = little problems. So true.

My 2 yo is having the hardest time adjusting, but some days are better than others. While I don't mind sleeping with her or my 4 yo, there isn't room for both, and I find it (generally) harder to keep everyone sleeping when both the newborn and 2 or 4 yo wake. The 2 and 4 yo sleep in the same bed, so when one wakes, DH sleeps in another room with that one, and we hope the other one will sleep through the night. If she doesn't, then I let that child sleep with me as well. It is MUCH easier when just I sleep with the newborn, with no one else (not even DH) in bed.

Do you have another bed where DH could sleep with the 3 yo? That is what I would suggest. I am guessing your 3 yo won't accept him right away since it's a new thing, but he will with time.
post #134 of 147
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here's the crazy part though; they think it's my PERIOD.
I have gotten what seems like a period, too (though nowhere near the kind of bleeding you describe) and think, DARN, I was hoping for at least a year off! But, it has always been a one-time thing, and does not return for at least a year. Hopefully this will be true for you!

I hope you get some rest-- whatever it was sounds draining.
post #135 of 147
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Has anyone else thought about supplementing with Vit D? I didn't with ds1 because he was born in the summer and we spent a lot of time outside...however, I feel sure I have a deficiency and inadequate stores. I am thinking about this http://www.evitamins.com/product.asp?pid=14069

Maybe it's silly, but the lack of vit D makes me nervous with the gobs of sick floating around.
I take Vit D as well. I highly recommend taking it in these winter months!

As far as colic goes, my first son had this too and I realized that I was overfeeding him. This might not be your case, but I was offering the breasts EVERY time he cried instead of trying to interpret his cries and he was getting too much food and spitting up and then being really gassy because of it...

I miss going to the gym! I hope my midwife can approve me at my 2-week appointment for light exercise.. or is that too early?

My girl's cord fell off today (12 days old) so we're giving her her first bath tonight!
post #136 of 147
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I miss going to the gym! I hope my midwife can approve me at my 2-week appointment for light exercise.. or is that too early?
nak

I'm itching to get some exercise, too, but my midwife told me to wait a week after my bleeding has stopped compltly, like not even a little tiny speck, and then to watch carefully if it returns. At a few days shy of four weeks postpartum, i still have a tiny bit of bleeding.
post #137 of 147
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We're tempted to DTD but there are some issues there- my stiches are still there from my 3 tears. How long do the self-dissolving ones take to dissolve? It's been 3 1/2 weeks, shouldn't they be gone by now?
It depends...I had 5 stitches last time and 4 of them dissolved/fell out but the last one I had to have the OB snip at my 6w pp visit. We had DTD a couple days before that and it was excruciating with that stupid stitch in there. So I dont' knwo how long they are supposed to take, but I wouldnt' DTD until you're sure they are gone.


Re:tummies
Last time I got my regular jeans on by about 2 or 2.5wks pp. Um, well, I ws 3w yesterday and I squeezed into them (had to lay on the bed to zip them up) but I've got muffin top I didn't have that last time. It's very frustrating. I just feel fat. I'm recovering well in all other aspects--no PPD, baby sleeps pretty well (last one didn't so I've had my turn!), no tearing/stitches so we have resumed a little DTD which takes a lot of strain/stress out of the marriage (DH doesn't cope well with the 6ww...) I guess if feeling fat is my worst problem I don't have much to complain about. Last time I was skinny with a million issues, so this time I can handle fat with no other issues.


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Is anyone else thinking about ttc again?
Not specifically...last time I had a rubella shot right after the birth (long story, wouldn't do it again, but oh well what's done is done). anyway, because of that we wanted to make sure I didn't get pg for at least 12m...as it was, we stopped preventing around 9m, and I didn't resume menstruation until 20 m and got pg at 25m. So the kids are 33m apart, and we've concluded that we'll just take them as they come, so we're not doing any BC, nor do we plan to at least at this point. I don't anticipate gettign pregnant for a couple of years, just because of how things went last time, but we're not doing anything to specifically encourage/prevent it either. We figure to have a couple more kids and we'll take them when they come.

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Does anyone have experience with colic?

Ds2 is so laid back for most of the day and through out the night...but he has a nightly bout of crying that lasts for at least an hour where it's almost impossible to console him. He acts like he wants the breast but latches and then screams and then goes back to rooting...it seems like he just wants to be comforted but nothing works. I've resorted to gas drops and gripe water but they only seem to help a little.

Other than this nightly activity, he is so content. He sleeps well, nurses well and rarely cries during the day.

Does this sound like colic?
This sounds just like my last baby (and this one a bit) and gripe water has been a lifesaver for us...both my boys would start burping or tooting within a couple of minutes usually. I have an overactive letdown though so I knew that was a likely culprit. Also, I put the kiddo in the sling/wrap, give them some gripe water, and then walk...if you have a birth ball you can sit on that and gently bounce and that seems to help. Rocking chairs can too I suppose, but i've never had one


Re: vitamin D--I am using it a little, but that's cuz I live in Alaska...

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Poor dh tried SO hard to help out but neither boy accepted his attempts. So he just sat up and talked calmly to ds1 who continued to scream.

PLEASE tell me this will settle down?! It's been two weeks. I know this a lot for his 3 yr old self to process and I am reminding myself of that all day and night.
Sounds like here--kids won't take DH, but I'm not always available...yeah, it gets better. I have been working on having little pep talks with my almost-3-yo during the day (when he's awake and not distressed) about how sometimes mommy has to care for the baby and it's ok to have daddy. thus far he always says "no, I need mommy" bu tI'm hoping that if we discuss this enough it may get through his head.
post #138 of 147
I'm a little nervous as it approached bedtime. DH was sweet and helped me move my tv upstairs so I have everything I need in the nursery for nighttime nursing. I am looking forward to sleeping in my own bed but I'm worried babe will be up a lot and also worried she will leave me engourged! I need to chill out and relax. I am hoping that no matter what, my own bed will give me more restful sleep.

Anyone able to not dream about babies, birth and pregnancy?
post #139 of 147
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It depends...I had 5 stitches last time and 4 of them dissolved/fell out but the last one I had to have the OB snip at my 6w pp visit. We had DTD a couple days before that and it was excruciating with that stupid stitch in there. So I dont' knwo how long they are supposed to take, but I wouldnt' DTD until you're sure they are gone.
Oh my! I was thinking they'll have to be snipped- my MW said she'd do it at my 6 wk PP visit, but that just stinks that they're not dissolving!
post #140 of 147
[QUOTE=Mizelenius;14757950]I have gotten what seems like a period, too (though nowhere near the kind of bleeding you describe) and think, DARN, I was hoping for at least a year off! But, it has always been a one-time thing, and does not return for at least a year. Hopefully this will be true for you!
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I had a client that this happened to and she went to the ER for heavy bleeding at 8 weeks PP and they didn't find anything wrong. Midwife thought it could be AF but it wasn;t. It stopped a few days later and her period has not returned. *shrug*
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