DH wants to go to a hockey game

[mommy2two babes]

My due date is Tuesday and DH wants to go to a hockey game on Saturday.
The problem is that if he goes I know he is going to want to have a few beers. That means taking the train and having someone drop off and pick them up at the train station. I would imagine that it would take him at least 2 hrs to get home depending on the train schedule if I needed him to.

If he drove and didn't drink at all it would still take him at least an hour if not more to get out of the arena to the parking and home.

I am not sure how I feel Dh has never been to see a leafs game live and his friend has offered him a free ticket ( he won them) They are very pricy to buy so its not really an option for him to go another time.
I am a bit PO'd that I am now in the position to say yes or no now.

DH said we would see how I am feeling in the morning and day before he went. Unfortunately that doesn't mean one whole heck of alot after my last 56 minute labor.

Hopefully I am right and DS2 wont decide to show up for at least another week.

[starc]

You have my sympathy. Sorry Mama

[pjs]

Unfortunately this is one of those times when you have to make a sacrifice for the benefit of the family as a whole. DH shouldn't put this on you- he's capable of making a decision as the protector of your family. Does he feel comfortable going to a game knowing he could be leaving his wife and dc #1 while in labor and miss the birth of his child? Is a hockey game more important than being there for the birth of his child and during labor for his wife who will need him probably the most she'll ever need him?

[beebalmmama]

I would have said yes, until I saw your last labor was 56 minutes. Personally I wouldn't want my dh going knowing that he could miss the birth and helping me through the labor. Were you early with your last births? Not that that will necessariy mean anything with this one....

[hillymum]

Personally I would say no to the game as I too have short labours. If he could get home in 30 minutes then fine, but thats not the case, and this is a home birth where support really needs to be there.

[mommy2two babes]

I do have lots of support available 3 generations worth 2 minute walk away.
I also have a wonerful neighbour with kids the same age as mine who has told me anytime day or night if I need her.

I do worry that DH would be really upset with himself if he missed it. The kids would probably be upsett too.

DH and I have been at odds about a few things with this birth. I think it might be less stressful for me if he wasn't there TBH
I feel really bad saying that though as he really wants to be there for/with me.

He is really antsy about having a HB, has been negative somewhat about DS's nursing ( he doesn't know that DD still asks to nurse for a few seconds every couple of months) Recently he brought up that he didn't want the kids at the birth because he thought it might traumatize them
He finally agreed to play it by ear.

Geez now I feel bad

[shakenbake]

dont feel bad
my DH goes to the nascar race EVERY year has sence the track opend her like 9 years ago it was something him and his father did together till his fathr fizzled out of his life
well it was last weekend and i told him DO NOT GO! the track its self ios littelry like 15-20mins drive ffrom our home But if i had gone into labor after the race had just ended it takes us 3-4hrs to get out of the parking lot litterly so i told him
is a race more important then seeeing your child be born?
i didnt feel bad at all as you shouldnt ether!

[jilly]

Ooh, a Leaf's game. That is painful. But getting out of Toronto after one would take him forever, even if he was driving, wouldn't it?

What a sucky situation.

I would let him worry about wether he'll feel bad about missing the birth. Since you have lots of other support, I would ask myself wether its going to be worse for your relationship, and your opinion of him to agree or not.

[SunShineSally]

I am not a fan of sports and thankfully Dh also isn't a fan. But with a whole family of sports nuts and it being in Toronto and the chance to go I feel for you mama and I would be mad that he put it on you to make the choice! But getting out of Toronto as Jilly said is a pain all in it self with out a game going on I could not imagine him getting out even in an hour if he drove!!! I would tell him to do what he feels is right!

[mommy2two babes]

Originally Posted by jilly

Ooh, a Leaf's game. That is painful. But getting out of Toronto after one would take him forever, even if he was driving, wouldn't it?

What a sucky situation.

I would let him worry about whether he'll feel bad about missing the birth. Since you have lots of other support, I would ask myself wether its going to be worse for your relationship, and your opinion of him to agree or not.

I know how badly he wants to go and how much it means to him.
I really have no idea how long it takes to get out of Toronto after a leafs game and on the 401.

I hope the baby doesn't come tomorow either. Ok let me rephrase that. The baby is not allowed to come tomorow as my MW is unavailable and it is my Moms birthday as well as the game.

I really love him but so far he has not made a great labor support for me ( and thats ok) I wouldn't be bothered if he didn't want to be there but he really does.