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Originally Posted by LeeKei
 THis is what I tell them.
If you could hear and adult crying audibly would you just ignore them? or would you go and talk to them and ask what is wrong, comfort, love on, try to help them? If you wouldnt do it to an adult why in the world would you do it to a baby!?!?!?! GRRRRRR this topic gets me blood boiling!!! |
This is about what I told my BIL - childless bachelor who came by to meet our LO when he was 5 days old, and asked when we needed to start letting him cry himself to sleep or some similar phrase (my sleep-deprived brain didn't hold on to the details, just the fact that I thought my head was going to explode). I told him never. Which he questioned of course. So I asked him... "how would you feel if you were crying like your heart was breaking and you knew the person who you loved most in the world could hear you and they ignored you? How would that make you feel?" His brilliant answer... "I dunno"
Nana told me to just let him cry, and I simply said "I can't do that"
Great grandma has also told me I should just set him down and walk him away. Her I asked why - just the relationship we have. She said that it would be easier on me. I reminded her that I did not have children to make my life easy. That from the day he was born, my life was about serving his needs, not making my life easier. That shut her up. She hasn't mentioned it again... now if only I could get her off my back about the pacifier thing.
