For the first three weeks we kept DD in a cradle right next to the bed. I was soooo exhausted, because every time she woke up, I had to sit up, pick her up, feed her, then put her back in the bed and go back to sleep. Plus, she woke up a LOT. Finally, one night I accidentally fell asleep while feeding her. (I always fed her sitting up in the bed, so this wouldn't happen, but it did anyway.) When I woke up, I was completely disoriented, had no idea what had happened, and couldn't find DD
. I looked in the cradle, on the floor, under the covers. Finally, I picked up a pillow and she was underneath it
- completely underneath it, hidden. That's a SIDS death waiting to happen. I had napped with her on many occasions and knew that when I slept with her on purpose, I always knew where she was. You just sleep differently when there's a baby with you - if this is your first, there's research on that; you don't have to take my word for it.
So after that I told DH what had happened and that I wanted to co-sleep, because being that exhausted that you somehow put the baby under a pillow then fall asleep is flat out dangerous. He was okay with it, so that's what we did.
I'll use a mini crib for this baby for naps and stuff (if baby will sleep in it anyway) and co-sleep at night.