Still being pushed by NICU!

[tropicaldutchtulip]

Our son was born at 31 weeks Sunday and they are still pushing for him to get circumcised! UGHHH!!!!! It's just driving me a little crazy since we have so many other more important issues going on!

[bandgeek]

If it's the same people over and over, just put your foot down and tell them it's not going to happen under any circumstances and if they continue to HARASS you, you will be going higher up. Threaten to call in the floor nurse, the social worker, the head of patient relations.

If it's just that every new nurse on each new shift feels the need to ask then you can probably be a bit nicer. But I wouldn't be subtle about it. Tape a sign at his head that says, "I will be going home with my WHOLE penis, so please stop soliciting cosmetic surgery...Thanks!"

[MommytoB]

Nicu is pushing you to circumcision your son ? Why are they doing that especially for a preemie ?

If any medical professional was pushing me to circ my son I would say if you have balls to do that again I will have enough balls to push a Major Complaint of the NICU with all of whom it concerns to Your Boss and Joint Commission .

[craft_media_hero]

wtf? I would be outraged. I agree with PP about writing it out or maybe writing the message "NO CIRC NO CIRC NO CIRC" on his onesie. Seriously, why on earth would they be pushing a traumatic, unnecessary surgery on a preemie!!!? I would not blame you if you totally snapped on them if they continue to push it. That is bs, I'm so sorry that you have this additional stress on top of having a brand new and early little one.

[SleeplessMommy]

Congrats on the new baby! I am guessing you are somewhere on the East Coast - home of circ happy hospitals.

If your son is going to be there for a while, you might want to contact these nice people and see if they have any suggestions. http://www.intactamerica.org/ A few lawyer letters can go a long way.

[Minarai]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

Nicu is pushing you to circumcision your son ? Why are they doing that especially for a preemie ?

Hint: it's green and it fits in wallets.

[tropicaldutchtulip]

Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy

Congrats on the new baby! I am guessing you are somewhere on the East Coast - home of circ happy hospitals.

If your son is going to be there for a while, you might want to contact these nice people and see if they have any suggestions. http://www.intactamerica.org/ A few lawyer letters can go a long way.

Nope Colorado Springs and it's the DR as he makes rounds! I finally told him for religious reasons and then he left it at that!

[tropicaldutchtulip]

I hate this whole "it's cleaner", "a women doesn't want to sleep with it", thing from people! I'm happy to have him intact and proud of his tiny cute little penis!!! I didn't know how I would feel about it once I actually saw it since I have girls! But I knew I wouldn't be circ'ing him.

Thanks, I knew you all would understand!

[babygrant]

I totally agree with the previous posters. You need to be firm. "I have told you quite a few times, the answer is NO. NO NO NO NO NO!!!!! Do not ask me again. If your going to continue to harass me, I will go to the higher ups".

[Fellow Traveler]

I would agree, you should complain. His behavior is not appropriate. Furthermore, I believe you should now respond with something along the lines of, "I already told you we are not mutilating our son."

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

He is soliciting for cosmetic surgery and that should be against hospital policy. I would tell him one more time if it comes up and add that you will now be filing a complaint with the dept. heads about it. Ridiculous that he didnt take no for an answer the first time.

It isnt possible that he will be circed while you are not there is it? Things like that do happen so you need to make sure that you have something in his isolate saying you have not consented to circ and should it happen you will sue. I would be very worried that this Dr. would do it since he is not listening to you.

[MommytoB]

yep I would definetly mention something like that because wasn't their someone who said No to circ but the kid was circ'ed anyways . I think it was located in canada ?

[Minarai]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

yep I would definetly mention something like that because wasn't their someone who said No to circ but the kid was circ'ed anyways . I think it was located in canada ?

There are a TON of cases like that; the one I remember most vividly happened in the Dallas area. Unfortunately, the doctor got off scot-free, or so I remember from the article . We had a similar discussion about circ without consent a while back and a whole bunch of these cases were mentioned.

[mntnmom]

Which hospital in the Springs? Is it Evans? If the doc is military you can definately go higher up. And if he's a contract civilian working for the Army, you can get him fired.
If it's not a mil. hosp. you can talk to public relations, or their customer service rep. Don't know how far it would go... but he needs to know that discussing the future sexual options of a newborn is NOT appropriate!!

[Minarai]

Originally Posted by mntnmom

Which hospital in the Springs? Is it Evans? If the doc is military you can definately go higher up. And if he's a contract civilian working for the Army, you can get him fired.
If it's not a mil. hosp. you can talk to public relations, or their customer service rep. Don't know how far it would go... but he needs to know that discussing the future sexual options of a newborn is NOT appropriate!!

Just out of curiosity and slightly , but don't military hospitals REQUIRE circ? I know for a fact that all male recruits are circ'd upon entry if they weren't circ'd already, so it stands to reason that their hospitals would require all male patients to be circ'd as well, regardless of age or health problem.

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by Minarai

Just out of curiosity and slightly , but don't military hospitals REQUIRE circ? I know for a fact that all male recruits are circ'd upon entry if they weren't circ'd already, so it stands to reason that their hospitals would require all male patients to be circ'd as well, regardless of age or health problem.

I have never heard that, where did you hear it? In fact the Attorney who posts here as 'Dave2GA' was in the Navy and he isn't circumcised.

[imagine21]

Originally Posted by minarai

i know for a fact that all male recruits are circ'd upon entry if they weren't circ'd already...

what?????

[Fyrestorm]

Originally Posted by Minarai

Just out of curiosity and slightly , but don't military hospitals REQUIRE circ? I know for a fact that all male recruits are circ'd upon entry if they weren't circ'd already, so it stands to reason that their hospitals would require all male patients to be circ'd as well, regardless of age or health problem.

Nope...My Bff's son just joined up and is happily intact...not a word was mentioned about his status.

[Minarai]

Originally Posted by Fellow Traveler

I have never heard that, where did you hear it? In fact the Attorney who posts here as 'Dave2GA' was in the Navy and he isn't circumcised.

From what I've read, it was first required during World War II because some men had trouble keeping themselves clean out in the North African desert. Then in Vietnam, they required it to prevent "jungle rot." The exact same idea as was used in WWII was applied during the Persian Gulf War. I don't have any more data than this, but I'm sure I can dig it up easily.

[Fyrestorm]

Originally Posted by Minarai

From what I've read, it was first required during World War II because some men had trouble keeping themselves clean out in the North African desert. Then in Vietnam, they required it to prevent "jungle rot." The exact same idea as was used in WWII was applied during the Persian Gulf War. I don't have any more data than this, but I'm sure I can dig it up easily.

My DH's Father served in WWII and korea and was intact - I also dated a vietnam vet who was intact. It might have been recommended...but was not mandatory.