To the OP: I'm glad you have the support of your friend.
|It drives me NUTS to see people get all huffed up about a doula being liable because she's 'the only professional there'. As long as the doula is only doing things within her scope of practice, then there's no liability. If she see things getting 'out of hand' (ie mom asks her to deliver baby?) then she should be calling 911 or leaving. No one forces her to perform professional birth 'tasks'.
If you want a doula to do 'doula things'... then go for it! Even if it's not a trained doula, that doesn't mean they're not a doula. A doula simply put is someone who 'mothers the mother'- she's there to support you while you give birth, whether she's your mother, your best friend, a fellow UC'er or someone you met on the street.
It makes me sad to see women being turned down from doula care when they want it, because people are worried about liability. I wish we all trusted each other a little more!
From a uc'ing mother who is also a doula--I agree with the sentiment of outrage. Yes. It is outrageous that a doula doing only "doula things" should not hold any liability...however...
The problem is that families are not typically the ones who press charges.
A midwife I know was recently convicted of practicing nursing without a license. Her fault? She attended a VBAC mom, transported due to suspected rupture. Mom had indeed ruptured, c/s, mom and baby were fine (midwife was on the ball and got them there in plenty of time,) but the attending ob had a bone to pick with homebirth & filed charges.
The midwife did nothing wrong--she was totally within her scope of practice, and she performed her duties flawlessly. The legal costs, the trial, the potential for jail time
just devastated her life. She lost her house. Her family (5 little children) suffered enormously.
I really hate seeing doulas (or any birth professional) dragged through the muck like this. It's not an issue of trust. It's an issue of risk.