14 mth old wakes up wailing, weeping

[Nova0929]

My 14 month old son wakes up 2-3 times between his bedtime (8pm) and mine (10-11pm), then 2-3 times during the night, and then needs constant nursing from 5am till wake up at 7am. We co-sleep. Each time he wakes up he sits up instantly, wailing, crying, tears streaming down his face. There's never a time I can just quietly roll over to nurse him since he sits up the instant he wakes up and begins just screaming and wailing. Before I come to bed I run in to nurse him when he wakes and even in the 20 seconds it takes me to get there he's sobbing hysterically. Then during the night he sits up sobbing as well. And in the morning he just cries and cries if he's not nursing constantly for two hours before waking. Is there anything I can do? It makes me sad that he seems sooo sad, tears just pouring down his face each night. Also of course I'd love it if he stayed asleep before I come to bed, and I'd *really really* love it if I didn't have to be nursing continuously for two hours every morning! Thanks for any advice!

[Cutie Patootie]

Awwwww, to you and your little one. Have you ruled out night terrors? What is his temperament after he wakes for the day? My daughter did something similar though not as many times a night. She is 4.5 now, but since she was born she has never woken from sleep not crying. She would wake up every night and just cry and cry. I never figured out why. She hasn't done it in some time, but every once and awhile she will wake an hour or so after bed and cry hysterically. I'm interested to hear other responses.

[Maluhia]

That sounds really hard! Have you ruled out any tummy issues (gas, reflux, etc?).

I know that can be hard as many Drs. wil blame the cosleeping/nursing when that is not what is making the little one cry, it's the one thing at night that won't!

[lifeguard]

Ds is very similar. I always say that he is either awake or asleep - no drowsy for my guy. It's frustrating but I haven't found anything that works except to respond asap so that he doesn't get too awake (or we'll all end up awake for hours).

[77sugaree]

My DS1 did that too at about the same age (although not as often as yours) He would wake up screaming and would immediately climb out of bed, run to the other room and throw himself down in the floor. He would be inconsolable. We tried giving him infant gas drops one night and that seemed to help. We finally discovered that dairy gave him tummy aches and completely cut that out and he finally started sleeping better.

I hope you can figure it out. It's so hard to see them get so upset. You could try the gas drops, I think they are pretty harmless. Hope this helps.

[Nova0929]

Thank you, wise mamas!

[nudhistbudhist]

My ds does the same thing, always when he's teething... And he's always teething! He has 4 molars halfway through right now, and he's 14 mos too. I was at my wits end trying to figure out what was going on, then I spotted them Now that most of the teeth have cut through, he seems to be WAAAAAY better... Last night he slept for a 6.5 hr stretch! His first ever!!! I kept waking up worried that he hadn't woken up yet. I actually checked his breathing He's not really a daytime teether: it doesnt affect his mood at all, sometimes his appetite if he's really sore, but nights are when it hurts him. I feel the same when I lay down with a tooth ache.

Maybe do a check with a flashlight if you can... I didn't know the molars were bugging him till they popped.

[littlehoneybee]

DD is 13 months and does the same thing. The other night was especially bad and she was waking up twice an hour all night. Only nursing would comfort her. I couldn't figure out what was wrong. She won't cosleep anymore so it was very tough on me.