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post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 
This is totally just a vent. DS is happy at school; I'm not about to rock the boat over these, relatively minor, things.

1. More than 24 hours notice that you want me to send a pear into school with my child would be nice.

2. Don't tell all the kids that everyone has to take a bath every night because you don't want "stinky" kids in your classroom. My kid has excezma. Baths make it worse. He is 6; he does not need a bath every night.

3. Do not tell my kid that the black marker is ugly. Now he won't use it at home.

4. Do not tell my kid to bring a can of food into school without sending a note to me. I have no idea what's going on and he's upset because I can't tell if I am really supposed to do this or not.

5. Do not tell all the kids over and over that you don't want sand in your classroom. Now my kid is paranoid every morning about whether he has sand on his shoes. It's kindergarten. Deal with a little sand.

6. Could you ask for volunteers to provide the ingredients for cooking projects? I don't mind at all and would gladly send in more than our "share" but I can't stop worrying about the families who just may not have it in their budgets to send in "three cans of swanson's chicken broth" on a couple of days notice.

7. When you assign my kid to trace his hand and cut it out 16 times, do not hold up the ONE sample DH did for him (after watching DS do the first few and having trouble explaining that DS needed to trace between his fingers) and tell him that his parents shouldn't do his homework for him. He's in kindergarten. It's the first bleeping thing we've done for him all year and DH only did it to show DS how. After that DS' work product improved a ton, so it was a very effective teaching method. If you're going to send homework home and expect the parents to sign off on it, you need to expect that we're going to try to teach DS how to do it.

Ok, I feel better now. Back to your regularly scheduled threads. Oh, and feel free to add your vents here too!

Catherine
post #2 of 25
I have nothing to vent b/c my kids' teachers are great, I see the teachers almost every day, and I bring up relevant concerns when I have them.

Most of those issues by themselves I might let go, but #2 and #7 are things I'd be talking to the teacher about. I have an extremely high opinion of my dd's kindy teacher; she is the model of what a teacher should be. I cannot imagine her doing any of the above, but especially not #2 and #7, and if that was the story coming home with my kid, I'd be speaking to her to about it. Sometimes it's a good thing to rock the boat.
post #3 of 25
I agree. There's a couple of things on this list that ought to be said to the teacher. I was a kindergarten teacher. Timely notices for things needed, and especially #7 would be things I'd bring up to a teacher.
post #4 of 25
I totally understand that your post is a vent, OP, so I don't want to be super critical. I do gently want to say that I think that you have some valid organizational concerns related to the timing of requests, as well as some more specific concerns about what your child might be internalizing from his school experience. I would think that it would be perfectly reasonable to address these things with the teacher. If you want to not rock the boat, I'd go for a low key approach-shoot off a quick e-mail in a friendly tone.

The little things can build into bigger things. My experience is that most of my kids teachers wanted to hear concerns while they were still at the "little" stage.

Good luck!
post #5 of 25
I actually really like ds' teacher this year and he's doing really well with her. I only have a couple issues with her.

1. At hat day at school, when my kid shows up in a hat that's made to be worn backwards, don't ostracize him by telling him that's how the gangsters wear their hats and make him the only kid at school with isn't wearing a hat.

2. Pink is NOT a girl color. Seriously.
post #6 of 25
I agree -- you have really legitimate, specific gripes that the teacher should know about and could easily address! I'd call or send a note.

My only gripe: Let me know what's going on. I know that you team-teach a combined class of 43 kids and you are snowed under, but it would really be helpful if you let me know that DD is talking too much and not finishing her math work BEFORE the end-of-the-year report card. What am I supposed to do with this information now? And if I e-mail asking for fun math resources, it would be nice if you replied. You and I both want her to succeed and enjoy the subject, so help me make it easier for everyone by working with me.

Otherwise, both her teachers seem to be pretty awesome. And I have a parent conference scheduled tomorrow -- they were very responsive about arranging that.
post #7 of 25


Why oh why was i not told when my daughter ate glue? She has never had problems with using glue before. I had to find out on her report card and it said " She has lost her privilege to use glue because she was eating it."

post #8 of 25
1. More than 24 hours notice that you want me to send a pear into school with my child would be nice.

I can so relate to this! This really drives me crazy...
post #9 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone.

Catherine
post #10 of 25
My son's teacher is great, so no complaints here, but everything on your list would drive me nuts. A couple of them would have my son so distressed, that I could see them really ruining kindergarden for him. I'd definitely email the teacher.
post #11 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by crl View Post
This is totally just a vent. DS is happy at school; I'm not about to rock the boat over these, relatively minor, things.



2. Don't tell all the kids that everyone has to take a bath every night because you don't want "stinky" kids in your classroom. My kid has excezma. Baths make it worse. He is 6; he does not need a bath every night.

3. Do not tell my kid that the black marker is ugly. Now he won't use it at home.


5. Do not tell all the kids over and over that you don't want sand in your classroom. Now my kid is paranoid every morning about whether he has sand on his shoes. It's kindergarten. Deal with a little sand.

7. When you assign my kid to trace his hand and cut it out 16 times, do not hold up the ONE sample DH did for him (after watching DS do the first few and having trouble explaining that DS needed to trace between his fingers) and tell him that his parents shouldn't do his homework for him.

Catherine
These, especially the last one, I do not like at all. They are very negative ways of dealing with and teaching children imo. I would vent too! This is a kindergarten teacher????
post #12 of 25
I can think of 2 things.....

Please don't punish the whole class when only one or 2 children are breaking the rules.Punish those who break the rules.What is the point of following rules when you get punished for the actions of others?

Please don't embarrass my child by telling her in front of the class,"I know you write slow,but we don't have time to wait for you." when they are taking notes during oral reports.There are quite a few students that do not write fast,and pointing it out does not make them write faster.Certainly did not help my child to have that comment made.

Oh I remember another.....
When my child cuts her hand during stamp carving(art class) please don't call her a wuss for saying that it hurts.We teach our kids to respect others,and we certainly expect the same from teachers.Clean her up and move on.No name calling necessary.
post #13 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by mattemma04 View Post
I can think of 2 things.....

Please don't punish the whole class when only one or 2 children are breaking the rules.Punish those who break the rules.What is the point of following rules when you get punished for the actions of others?

Please don't embarrass my child by telling her in front of the class,"I know you write slow,but we don't have time to wait for you." when they are taking notes during oral reports.There are quite a few students that do not write fast,and pointing it out does not make them write faster.Certainly did not help my child to have that comment made.

Oh I remember another.....
When my child cuts her hand during stamp carving(art class) please don't call her a wuss for saying that it hurts.We teach our kids to respect others,and we certainly expect the same from teachers.Clean her up and move on.No name calling necessary.
These are def. problems.
post #14 of 25
Please don't charge my car at pick up time before I have even had time to put it into park to complain about something my child did during the day. Really, I've had a hard day at work too, I'm stressed because I'm running late, I want to say hello to the kids before I deal with teachers. And if the rule is that kids can't step off the curb until the car is stopped, you should follow that rule too. And just what do you expect me to do because "DD was disruptive in class"? Deal with it during class time and move on.
post #15 of 25
  • thank you for "getting" my child
  • thank you for sending me an email jsut to say how much your are enjoying him
  • thank you for spending the time to understand what SPD is and how it impacts learning
  • thank you for all you do everyday

because of this I am willing to forgive alot of the small things, like 24 hours to find xyz. Oh and I am a working mom with no stores within driving distance on the way to school so no options to buy anything. Then again, a good teacher has xtras or moves the project to the next day if lots of people cound't comply.

I hope in addition to venting to us you are speaking to her too. Alot of what you mention are easly correctable and can't be approached in a non-confrontational manner.. The shaming things with the handprint-unacceptable. I hope you delat with that IMMEDIATLY.
post #16 of 25
I'm a homeschooler, but my son is taking a couple of outside classes... here is my vent about one particular teacher/class. I'm *this* close to pulling him out.

1. When my son missed the first day of class because he was still on the waiting list and then shows up the second day, don't expect him to know what you covered on the first day. Oh, and introducing yourself and making him feel welcome would be nice too.

2. When my son is crying in class because your assignments are ridiculously hard, maybe take the time to actually help him instead of letting him sit there and cry. Seriously, that is just mean.

3. When some of the kids forget to bring a pencil, please just realize that it's not the end of the world and surely some other kids have extras or there are extras in the classroom. This is NOT something to get all snappy and rude about.

Okay, last one....

4. Maybe you could smile and act happy sometimes while you are teaching? It's painfully obvious you don't want to teach this particular class, but could you at least fake it??

Aaaaah, I already feel better.
post #17 of 25
Ooooh, can I play too!!??!! My son is only 2.5 and is in preschool/daycare FYI.

1. Please, please, I realize I am the "weirdo" mama, but when I ask you how my child's day went, please don't answer "fine" and turn your back on me. Every. Single. Time.

2. Please, could you remove the freaking 10000000 staples hanging half out of the wall from the walls of the class room where DS plays all day, 5 days a week? I am terrified to get too close. It looks like a mesh screen made of barbed wire. These are 2 and 3 year olds. He could get cut. Badly.

3. Please, Please, Please respect my child's allergy to strawberries and post it somewhere that subs will see it. Please take is seriously. Seriously. No, really. I don't want him to die.

4. I realize potty training is no fun. The first week, you did so fabulously with him and took him to the potty every hour or so and put him in a pull-up at nap time, which I was fine with. But now that it is 2 weeks in, and I come in and see that he had a "BM accident" at 8:15am and there are no poopy underwear in his cubby, where the heck is the poop going? Please stop putting him in pull-ups the freaking second I leave the building and then putting his underwear just before I get back in the afternoon. When someone writes that he had an accident, there is generally evidence.

5. If my child is bitten by another child, please tell me. Please do not let me hear it from him first at home as we are lying in bed the next morning. Please. Not cool.

6. I get that you open your doors at 7:30. If I get there a few minutes early and it is freezing outside and the office person is in and let us in, please don't send us back outside to wait. I will be more than happy to wait somewhere inside that works for you and is out of your way, but please don't send us back out. It is cold, and my son was sad to be sent away.

7. Is there any way someone in the school could possibly wash the walls? I realize it is not high on the priority list, but the layers of paint and crayon and cooking projects sludge is really starting to look pretty nasty. It is pretty clear that it is not all from this year, and it really looks gross. Honestly, I don't have very high standards in the cleanliness category, but this is beyond icky. Really, I would love to come volunteer some time to clean it up, but it might take a few weeks for just one mama with a 2 year old to run after.

8. Please stop feeding my kid Dunkin Donuts.

9. Please do not tell my child that a doughnut is a "healthy breakfast choice" and that rice is "not a healthy breakfast choice".

10. Please stop telling the children that they are "naughty boys and girls". Not cool.

I could go on....... Can you tell I cannot STAND DS's school???
post #18 of 25
And I thought I was the worst kindy teacher ever, the OP's list is just..
bleh. You should talk to the teacher immediatly. By the way, I''m not a kindy teacher anymore, I realized that teaching elementary or middle school for that matter was not my thing...
Just in case you were wondering

Anyway, I love DD's kindy teacher. She's nice and DD adores her.
post #19 of 25
I don't have much to complain about. DD's K teacher is great. However I do wish I knew what was going on in class more. Her blog hasn't been updated since Oct. 8th and she never sends notes home. I have no idea what is going on in class. Toped with the pick up/drop off at the curb thing.. I only see her when I pick up DD and there is a HUGE line behind me so we need to move right along.
post #20 of 25
Dear K teacher,

1. maxing out the DRA and telling me that my kid has already mastered all the math lessons you are assigning does not mean he is "on track". And being bad at coloring within the lines does not mean that he is "delayed".

2. If you are so concerned about my child's performance that you recommended him for special education assessment, I expect SOME communication with you on an ongoing basis. I should not have to ask for it. And I should be responded to when I explicitly ask for updates. And no, a sticker on his homework with "change colors" or "nice work" is not communication.

3. Why can't my kid color a horse or pumpkin blue? He knows that they aren't blue in real life. He likes blue. And why are you so stressed about coloring within the lines? This is a freakin' cliche!
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