A wise woman who was not already involved in this conversation would walk away right now...ah heck, who am I trying to kid.
Just thought I'd give you my experiences with my kids. If you think I'm crazy or mean, please don't bother to tell me.
My oldest, then about 7 begged to get her ears pierced. I relented. She got one pierced, freaked and decided not to have the other done. For many years. Then at 19 she took her birthday money, from me
and got her tongue pierced. Kids!
My son was 5. Some little girl as at one of those mall kiosks getting her ears pierced. SHe ws screaming bloody murder. As a joke I said, "that sounds like fun, huh? Want to get your ears pierced?" His whole body froze, his face lit up and he said, "would you really let me? Really? Oh, Ma...." I felt like a creep for teasing him, but my daughters experince was still fresh in my mind and that girl was still crying... I tried to tak him out of it, but he was crushed. I'd asked
after all. So, he got one ear pierced. He begged to get the other done too, said it didn't hurt. I was afraid his dad would have a fit, though he didn't. (His grandfather freaked!)
Twinners come along. Now, this ain't funny! They're identical. I mean completely, except for quickly fading marks on opposite eyelids. I studied those babies. I painted one big toe nail on one baby, but the other baby sucked it off! That couldn't be good! I dressed them in different outfits, but after a few changes, who was wearing what became a problem.
We went to the pedi, who looked my babies over carefully and said one had a head that was 1/2 a centimeter smaller tahn the other. Right. 1/2 a centimeter? So if my mother said, "Dear, which of the girls do I have?" I could grab the tape measure and find out? Sheesh.
Then I went to visit a friend who also had identical twin boys, 2 years older and very smart. They asked who was who. I told them. They started telling me I ws wrong. I blew them off. They got irate, started yellin' and cryin' and pullin' on their mom and saying NO, they girls are the other way around. And I had to wait until they were asleep to see if they were right. And they were.
Now, I didn't know about Hep or piercing guns vs needles back then, and those birth marks were fading fast. So I took them to the mall. Until they were 5, Liz wore hearts and Nikki wore stars. In case of medical emergency, can you imagine...if one were unconsious and one died, I couldn't help but wonder how we'd ever know. What would I say? I don't know who's who?
At thirteen, that's not a problem. I can tell, but sometimes it takes a second look! Oh, and neither of them cried. THey were about 3 or 4 months old. They looked surprised, then they nursed, and it seemed ok.