I have been toying with the idea of moving closer to the city for 6 months or so.
There are more educational opportunities, of all sorts (school, community based, dual enrollement, etc) as they age in the city and I want that for my kids.
I am increasingly finding that if I want activites for my oldest, they are hard to find if they are not:
a) at school
b) sport based
I have to drive one hour away to get to activities - and my work scheduel does not support this on a regular basis.
My children do have friends here - sort of- so to move I feel like I would be chosing education over friendship.Here is the layout of the friendships, FWIW:
Ds, almost 14, has 2 village friends - they are at our house a lot. One is going through a rough time right now and making poor choices. Who knows if he will continue to make them????
DD, almost 11, 1 village friend. Village friend is nice but has scary family of origin (truly scary) - DH and I do wonder if she will get into trouble in adolescence due to rebellion, poor role models, etc
DD, 7, has no village friends
Older DD and DS have some friendships through HSing in the area, but these friendships rarely extend beyond classes and formal HSing activities.
It also seems that as children age here they start school. Grade 7 is a popular time to start them, as is grade 9. I am fearful that if we stay where we live, there will be no other HSers their age around - it could be isolating, and maybe they will see themselves as abnormal????
Her is my pro/con list:
Pros:
-we could buy closer to the city but on a rural property. Dh and I both crave land and privacy
-DH would be closer to work: better commute!
-better educational options and closer to a place where teens might actually HS through high school.
Cons:
loss of current friends for kids
selling a house and moving
houses woud cost more closer to the city
Any thoughts?
Kathy
There are more educational opportunities, of all sorts (school, community based, dual enrollement, etc) as they age in the city and I want that for my kids.
I am increasingly finding that if I want activites for my oldest, they are hard to find if they are not:
a) at school
b) sport based
I have to drive one hour away to get to activities - and my work scheduel does not support this on a regular basis.
My children do have friends here - sort of- so to move I feel like I would be chosing education over friendship.Here is the layout of the friendships, FWIW:
Ds, almost 14, has 2 village friends - they are at our house a lot. One is going through a rough time right now and making poor choices. Who knows if he will continue to make them????
DD, almost 11, 1 village friend. Village friend is nice but has scary family of origin (truly scary) - DH and I do wonder if she will get into trouble in adolescence due to rebellion, poor role models, etc
DD, 7, has no village friends
Older DD and DS have some friendships through HSing in the area, but these friendships rarely extend beyond classes and formal HSing activities.
It also seems that as children age here they start school. Grade 7 is a popular time to start them, as is grade 9. I am fearful that if we stay where we live, there will be no other HSers their age around - it could be isolating, and maybe they will see themselves as abnormal????
Her is my pro/con list:
Pros:
-we could buy closer to the city but on a rural property. Dh and I both crave land and privacy
-DH would be closer to work: better commute!
-better educational options and closer to a place where teens might actually HS through high school.
Cons:
loss of current friends for kids
selling a house and moving
houses woud cost more closer to the city
Any thoughts?
Kathy
