See this is exactly why I don't want to tell people. At all. When we told DPs sisters about us getting engaged a while back, the two were told we just incredibly rude to us. One said "you just broke up last week and now you're getting married? what do you think you're doing?" Okay, first off, we had an argument and I was angry so I left. I went out for a few hours, walking around, because I needed to be alone and cool off. He got upset and called her because they are disturbing close, or at least they were until that happened. By the next day, we were fine. That's how I react to arguments. I leave the situation. Then she told their father and he also yelled at us. But he's an ass and we haven't talked to him in nearly two years. When he told his other sister and her husband, they just ignored us. Nice, huh? But that sister is a complete screw up and really just needs to be exterminated. Seriously.
We did tell DPs mother and grandmother when they visited for DDs birthday party. They were excited. Well, I guess his grandmother was excited. His mother definitely was as she immediately called his stepdad.
When we were pregnant last time, my mother was pretty rude about it. She has horrible mood swings thanks to her drug abuse and she took it all out on us, saying we were stupid for getting pregnant and telling DP he had no way to support me. She was pretty evil. And that's why DP doesn't want to tell her at all. Neither do I.
I'm not much worried about my friends being rude, since the few I have told were all excited. What I'm worried about is telling family. I'm worried they will yell at us and be "disappointed".