Originally Posted by lessmith23
IMO, people have started to treat parenting like weight loss. They want a quick, easy solution, no once wants to put forth any effort anymore.
See, I kind of feel the opposite. Parents try to struggle so much against their child, disregarding baby's natural inclinations. I feel like I'm going with the flow, embracing my baby fully because it's not me against him, it's us, finding what works best for both of us. How could picking up a crying child not feel comfortable and like going with the flow? Do some people not feel the natural inclination to be mothering or is it that they have been told so many times they should do the opposite of what feels right in the moment? I have thought before (I'm not a hardcore APer), that maybe going through a struggle initially might bring about better results, but I totally don't think so anymore. I think any kind of struggle or fighting against brings about bad things, no matter how it looks on the surface even. Child fell asleep, so it must be working, for example.
Oh, and to OP, I actually stopped going over to my friend's house because I felt very uncomfortable with her style of parenting, and it made me feel anxious. I'm not perfect and I don't know everything, but some things definitely feel better than others. Now if I could just apply the same philosophy with my toddler