August 2009 Mamas & Little Babies! - Page 2

[saoirse2007]

off to get pg again....just so i can post in a ddc...

just kidding????
LOL

[Abraisme]

Originally Posted by puddleduck

My friend has a dd who is 2 weeks older than river, she has had her on solids since 8 weeks and is nightweaning her now! i'm practising not being judgmental but i'm lost for words.

Why do people need to practice being non-judgmental? To me, judgment is how we determine right from wrong. If you don't judge it's like you're saying, there is no right thing to do. There is no way to proclaim right from wrong without offending someone, that's the real problem.

[dislocator3972]

Originally Posted by Abraisme

Why do people need to practice being non-judgmental? To me, judgment is how we determine right from wrong. If you don't judge it's like you're saying, there is no right thing to do. There is no way to proclaim right from wrong without offending someone, that's the real problem.

I'm not sure I agree. I try to catch and stop myself from being judgmental because for me there's a difference between recognizing right and wrong (and making that judgment call) and judging someone for what they've done. I can judge an action or behavior but not the person behind it. Especially when it comes to parenting, there are always so many factors behind a decision that I can't be sure I understand the situation completely. That being said, nightweaning at 8 weeks sounds like a bad idea.

Just my .02.

Off to check out our new forum!

[Jilian]

Judgement: It really isn't cool to judge people because you never know the whole story. What if this mama is battling a severe case of PPD and needs to go on a non-BF safe med? Would it make it any different if she had cancer and needed treatment? You just never know the whole story so it is best to try to keep the judgement to yourself. I'm ashamed to admit that I used to be the queen of judgement and then I got a son with a heart defect and that shut me up really fast. Now I try to be cool and give people the benefit of the doubt because I've walked a mile in some really crappy shoes. No one sets out thinking "I want to be the crappiest mom I can" so please try to remember that each mom makes the best decisions she can based on the info she has and her life situation.

Stepping down now.

[Mamabeakley]

There is a difference between judging and judgemental. I am a person who judges, in the sense of categorizing things/facts/happenings and what I think of them. I can't help this - it's a basic personality trait.

However, I know myself to not be a judgemental person - because I keep my judgements to myself and assume I don't have a right to judge other people because I don't ever know the totality of other people's experience.

[Abraisme]

I agree that making assumptions is wrong. However, if you know the whole story I think it's fair to judge the situation or action.

[puddleduck]

Originally Posted by Jilian

Judgement: It really isn't cool to judge people because you never know the whole story. What if this mama is battling a severe case of PPD and needs to go on a non-BF safe med? Would it make it any different if she had cancer and needed treatment? You just never know the whole story so it is best to try to keep the judgement to yourself. I'm ashamed to admit that I used to be the queen of judgement and then I got a son with a heart defect and that shut me up really fast. Now I try to be cool and give people the benefit of the doubt because I've walked a mile in some really crappy shoes. No one sets out thinking "I want to be the crappiest mom I can" so please try to remember that each mom makes the best decisions she can based on the info she has and her life situation.

Stepping down now.

and even if you think you know the full story unless you are that person you never really can. people judge me on not vaxing, uc and home education, people have different opinions on what is wrong / right.

so instead of judging i try to be a positive role model and maybe discuss the information rather than the action.

[Koalamom]

Originally Posted by saoirse2007

off to get pg again....just so i can post in a ddc...

just kidding????
LOL

Noo! You did not just say that!!
Ok, I have thought the same thing.

[Coconut Chronicles]

Originally Posted by bluebirdmama1

Noo! You did not just say that!!
Ok, I have thought the same thing.

me too... must be hormones

[LilWin]

I'm here too! DS2 will also be 3 months tomorrow. He's doing really well, easy, laid-back and a good sleeper too. He's gotten so big already, I can't believe it. The little newborn look is totally gone! I'm giving away the first three sizes to a friend next week.
Every time he makes these sounds and giggles, he just melts my heart.

[Lacrymosa]

Is anyone going to use that forum?! We SHOULD, it would be fun!!!! I miss our DDC already and it's not even gone.

And as for judging... I got totally railed yesterday by all family and friends for posting a comment about how the neighbors use CIO and it's heartbreaking listening to the baby scream all night. Apparently I was being judgemental by saying CIO like that is neglect. That's the last time I state my opinion on facebook!

[Lacrymosa]

Originally Posted by saoirse2007

off to get pg again....just so i can post in a ddc...

just kidding????
LOL

[wombatclay]

subbing! back later....

[thedenverduo]

I'm here! Solomon will be 3 months old in 8 hours. Crazy how fast time flies. He is growing like a weed and therefore outgrowing his clothes faster than I thought possible. We got a lot of hand-me-downs and clothes as gifts, and so thankfully I haven't really had to think about clothing yet. But at this rate, I might have to break down and actually shop for clothes soon.

Sol is a very relaxed little man, which has been an extra huge blessing the past few days, as I am pretty sure I am PREGNANT AGAIN! <I just spent 10 minutes looking for a smiley to convey my feelings on the subject and I can't find an adequate one. I was amazed when I started my period at 6 wks pp. We EBF, no pacifier, feed on cue, etc... so I was hoping for a 6 months at least! And now I am charting (which I realize can be tricky pp) and my temp has been elevated for 17 days now. I will probably jump the gun a little bit and take a test tomorrow.

Anyone else think they might be pregnant again? I am, to be honest, pretty much in panic mode right now. I have no desire to have another baby right now, and the idea of two kids less than a year apart is less than thrilling. I know it won't be the end of the world... but I can't stop thinking (read: worrying) about it. I wish I just knew one way or another so I could start coping or stop worrying. Ahhhhh!

I certainly don't want to complain about his job because I'm so glad that he has one in this economy, but it has been hard for the last year, he's worked so far away and doesn't get home until around 7:30 which is about bedtime, so it would just be so wonderful if he gets this new job!!!

MichiganMama- when do you hear about the job? Hoping he gets it!

[Abraisme]

Originally Posted by Lacrymosa

Is anyone going to use that forum?! We SHOULD, it would be fun!!!! I miss our DDC already and it's not even gone.

And as for judging... I got totally railed yesterday by all family and friends for posting a comment about how the neighbors use CIO and it's heartbreaking listening to the baby scream all night. Apparently I was being judgemental by saying CIO like that is neglect. That's the last time I state my opinion on facebook!

It's time for some new friends!

[dislocator3972]

Originally Posted by saoirse2007

off to get pg again....just so i can post in a ddc...

just kidding????
LOL

I can't stop thinking about being pg. DH is starting to get worried. Luckily we don't have sex often enough to worry one way or another.

Originally Posted by Coconut Chronicles

me too... must be hormones

Seriously!! Being pregnant wasn't all that fun to begin with (for me). I thought my hormonal ride was over, boy was I wrong!

Originally Posted by Lacrymosa

Is anyone going to use that forum?! We SHOULD, it would be fun!!!! I miss our DDC already and it's not even gone.

And as for judging... I got totally railed yesterday by all family and friends for posting a comment about how the neighbors use CIO and it's heartbreaking listening to the baby scream all night. Apparently I was being judgemental by saying CIO like that is neglect. That's the last time I state my opinion on facebook!

My parents asked to be my FB friend and I wrote a note on my blog saying I wasn't sure I wanted to censor all my FB activity. . . my 'rents read that and got all kinds of upset! I need a new internet to escape from the internet!

Originally Posted by thedenverduo

Sol is a very relaxed little man, which has been an extra huge blessing the past few days, as I am pretty sure I am PREGNANT AGAIN! <I just spent 10 minutes looking for a smiley to convey my feelings on the subject and I can't find an adequate one. I was amazed when I started my period at 6 wks pp. We EBF, no pacifier, feed on cue, etc... so I was hoping for a 6 months at least! And now I am charting (which I realize can be tricky pp) and my temp has been elevated for 17 days now. I will probably jump the gun a little bit and take a test tomorrow.

Anyone else think they might be pregnant again? I am, to be honest, pretty much in panic mode right now. I have no desire to have another baby right now, and the idea of two kids less than a year apart is less than thrilling. I know it won't be the end of the world... but I can't stop thinking (read: worrying) about it. I wish I just knew one way or another so I could start coping or stop worrying. Ahhhhh!

If you are pg, then I'm happy for you. Even if it isn't the timing you were hoping for, it's really incredible to think that our bodies could restart so quickly. And by incredible I mean amazing and awesome and all kinds of unbelievable. I hope things work out for you! Let us know what the test says!


I'm here too. I'll try to check in here and the other forum, I'm off to change my bookmarks.

[ApplePieBaby]

Subbing, even though my boys were born in June. They were due in Aug though

[Amanda Williams]

Hi gals!
Anyone up for posting some new photos?
I'll be back in a few with some of our Isaac.

[Abraisme]

13 Weeks

[Mamatoabunch]

I'm here, busy though. Finnian is such a sweet, easy baby. He is laughing now, so adorable!