How old for 2 kids to cosleep?

[mrsfrenchy]

This question is completely hypothetical for me at this point, but I'm just curious what age you all would feel comfortable with this:

Two girls, 18 months apart, want to share a bed, but you're not there to constantly supervise (either, its a bed in their own room seperate from yours, or they're in your room but you come to bed significantly later than them every night--either way, the kids are sleeping together without you for a long stretch of time every night)

So at what age would you be comfortable with this? Obviously, it would depend on each kid's 'sleeping personality' (if they move around a lot, etc.),
but would you be ok with it when they were 18 months and 3 years? older? younger?

[Maluhia]

I think 18 months and three years could work if they did not play too much

[Martha27]

I have a 20 month old son and just turned 3 daughter and I would probably try this with them now or even would have considered it back a couple months ago. My son still sleeps in a crib but is good about knowing the edge of the bed could mean he falls off. I'd feel better having one side of the bed against a wall. Also with my kids I think it would be awhile before they finally fell asleep if they even shared a room but I guess they would get better about it over time.

[mummamilk]

It really depends on the children and temperment. Mine would never sleep together one likes to cuddle the other does not want to be snuggled all night. The other part is it a bed the baby needs to be able to climb in and out of? A mattress on the floor in a completely child safe room I would do as soon as the baby is able to move (crawl, scoot etc)

[itsrtimedownhere]

mine sleep together great. (3 and 8 months) they have been since #2 was born. #1 sleeps like a rock though. doesn't wake up/move for anything. we have 2 queens pushed together so they aren't that close to each other either.

[mrsfrenchy]

Originally Posted by mummamilk

It really depends on the children and temperment. Mine would never sleep together one likes to cuddle the other does not want to be snuggled all night. The other part is it a bed the baby needs to be able to climb in and out of? A mattress on the floor in a completely child safe room I would do as soon as the baby is able to move (crawl, scoot etc)

Yeah, I should have said that. DD has been on a matress placed on the floor in her child-proofed room since she was 10 or 11 months and we've had no issues.

[lafemmedesfemmes]

my 5 year old and 2 year old only recently started co-sleeping together. they had previously been in my bed. i don't know if it would have worked if had tried earlier. they both sleep pretty deeply and wouldn't disturb each other, but my younger son is kind of clingy and would often wake in the night to make sure i'm still there, even after he night-weaned. even now, more often than not, my younger son wakes in the early morning, and finishes out the "night" in bed with me.

christina

[Mommy2Austin]

My 21 (or is it 22?) month old and 3 yo started cosleeping together on their own. They have seperate beds in their room, but started snuggling at night so I just let them sleep together No problems here. If the 3yo gets annoyed with his brother I just seperate them or they work it out on their own and fall back to sleep

[Monkey Keeper]

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin

My 21 (or is it 22?) month old and 3 yo started cosleeping together on their own.

This is us as well. They're 18m apart, and when we moved into our new home, they decided they wanted to sleep together. Well, more accurately, DD2 decided she wanted to sleep in DD1's big bed (queen), so we let her. Sporadically at first but now it's every night.

Generally, they do a great job falling asleep--and with much less muss and fuss--than if they were separate (excluding tonight, because clearly they know I'm typing this ).

Until I read this thread, it never occured to me that the reason DD2 wanted "sissy bed" was because she at least part-time co-slept with us for most of her life! Duh. DD1, OTOH, always liked her space. But now she's "afraid of the dark" so DD2 keeps her company!

It works out pretty well for everyone.

[MommaJayla]

My kids are 26 months and 36months, they have been sharing a twin bed every night for about 9 months now, since shortly after the youngest moved out of a crib. They sleep SO much better together than apart, even when ds2 was in a crib ds1 would sometimes crawl in there with him at night.

[luv]

I could have written this 2 girls, 18 months apart youngest is almost 10 months. Oldest has been on a queen mattress on the floor (touching 2 walls) since a year(ish) old. She still wakes once a night and comes to lay next to my bed. Considering putting them together in the bed to see if they sleep better together.

I don't know if it's safe for the 10mo though.

-C

[major_mama11]

nak

i was just broaching this idea w/ 4yo dd, to have baby brother sleep in her bed when he transitions out of our bed, until we can get his future bedroom set up. i'm thinking maybe b/t 18 mos and 2 yrs, however old he is when he night-weans. probably won't night wean for a while, as he still nurses every time he stirs at all. i plan to have a baby monitor in their room so i can hear them... that's what we do now that dd is in her own room.

[onyxravnos]

i think it would work fine with an 18 month old a three year old. my friend have her children int he same bed like this and they are just a wee bit further apart and it works just fine. i wouldn't have any trouble putting my kids to bed like that.