So, I recognize that this is probably not nearly as big a deal as most of the challenges being posted here, and, really, I have been blessed with two excellent nursers from day one. We've never had anything worse than a mild bout of mastitis and an even milder bout of thrush, and both of those were with my first baby, who is four now and no longer nurses.
My challenges now are with my second daughter, who will be two in January. She's 22 months old and still nurses like she's 6 months old. Anytime I sit down, anywhere; on the floor, on the couch, on the toilet, at the dinner table; she climbs in my lap and says "Mama, I want MILK". If I don't get to it quick enough for her, she WILL raise my shirt herself.
It's funny, if you're not living it.
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So, I am completely unable to sit down during the day. When we go to sleep at night, she nurses down, which I have NO problem with. I do, however, have an issue with the nursing gymnastics; latching on to my breast and then trying to climb the wall, or turn over, or play with the dog, or run a marathon, or whatever. I also take issue with the constant pinching, clawing, and the occasional BITING.
I know that I dealt with similar challenges with DD1. I remember clearly having bruises on my arms from her pinching them while she was nursing, in fact. But, the major difference was that DD1, by this age, was nursing MAYBE three times a day. DD2, well, like I said, I can't sit down without the MILK demand beginning.
I am feeling resentful of nursing her. I want to be able to sit on the floor and play dolls with DD1, without DD2 climbing in my lap to have milk. I want to be able to sit down and eat dinner without DD2 demanding milk. I want to be able to sit on my couch and have a conversation with a friend, without my adorable toddler lifting my shirt and informing all present that "I WANT MILK, MAMA!"
I've been going back and forth about weaning her. I mean, obviously, this is a very real need for her, you know? I have moments of guilt where I feel awful for even thinking about taking something away that she so obviously needs so much. But, then, I think, cripes, I've been pregnant and/or nursing for the past FIVE YEARS of my life! That's a long freaking time to not be in charge of all parts of my own body!
I guess what I've come up with is that I'd rather not wean her, but will if I feel I have to. But, I'm hoping someone will have some specific ideas for setting limits with this little parasite
She really is, just the most absolutely adorable, sweet, little girl. She's generally perfectly agreeable, and happy. She does eat solid food, and plenty of it. The ONLY times she really gets unhappy is if I try to do something besides nurse her when she wants milk (if I try to redirect, forget it.
We've also tried "Time to say night night to the milk!" She says "Good Night, milk" and then latches back on
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So, thoughts, ideas, commiseration, haikus...all welcome.
Thanks!
My challenges now are with my second daughter, who will be two in January. She's 22 months old and still nurses like she's 6 months old. Anytime I sit down, anywhere; on the floor, on the couch, on the toilet, at the dinner table; she climbs in my lap and says "Mama, I want MILK". If I don't get to it quick enough for her, she WILL raise my shirt herself.
It's funny, if you're not living it.
:So, I am completely unable to sit down during the day. When we go to sleep at night, she nurses down, which I have NO problem with. I do, however, have an issue with the nursing gymnastics; latching on to my breast and then trying to climb the wall, or turn over, or play with the dog, or run a marathon, or whatever. I also take issue with the constant pinching, clawing, and the occasional BITING.

I know that I dealt with similar challenges with DD1. I remember clearly having bruises on my arms from her pinching them while she was nursing, in fact. But, the major difference was that DD1, by this age, was nursing MAYBE three times a day. DD2, well, like I said, I can't sit down without the MILK demand beginning.
I am feeling resentful of nursing her. I want to be able to sit on the floor and play dolls with DD1, without DD2 climbing in my lap to have milk. I want to be able to sit down and eat dinner without DD2 demanding milk. I want to be able to sit on my couch and have a conversation with a friend, without my adorable toddler lifting my shirt and informing all present that "I WANT MILK, MAMA!"
I've been going back and forth about weaning her. I mean, obviously, this is a very real need for her, you know? I have moments of guilt where I feel awful for even thinking about taking something away that she so obviously needs so much. But, then, I think, cripes, I've been pregnant and/or nursing for the past FIVE YEARS of my life! That's a long freaking time to not be in charge of all parts of my own body!

I guess what I've come up with is that I'd rather not wean her, but will if I feel I have to. But, I'm hoping someone will have some specific ideas for setting limits with this little parasite

She really is, just the most absolutely adorable, sweet, little girl. She's generally perfectly agreeable, and happy. She does eat solid food, and plenty of it. The ONLY times she really gets unhappy is if I try to do something besides nurse her when she wants milk (if I try to redirect, forget it.
We've also tried "Time to say night night to the milk!" She says "Good Night, milk" and then latches back on
)So, thoughts, ideas, commiseration, haikus...all welcome.
Thanks!








) would help. Or setting a time each day that's just "hers" when you can focus on her. If she knows she's going to get that time, perhaps the constant "MILK!" requests would decrease some.
). So if you know that DD will ask to nurse as soon as you sit down, try to give her something else to do BEFORE starting that game with big sister or that conversation with your friend. Proactive discipline is a lot harder in the short-term but always seemed more effective to me, at least when I was mentally organized enough to remember!

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