Originally Posted by mamazee
Really, it goes both ways. If the giver were posting here, I'd say, "You should consider what the person likes, not just what you want to give." But the other half of the equation is, "You should accepts the gifts people give you graciously."
I agree with this completely, but I still think the quote in the OP is over the top and can't see how it relates to love languages or wanting to give a nice gift. If someone said that about my kids, especially if they said it in front of them, I think I'd invite them to not buy my kids anything
DS2 wants four things this year! I'm shocked. Last year, he only ever said "a hedgehog", referring to a specific chocolate that had been in his stocking the year before. If pressed for anything
else he wanted, he'd add "a candy cane". It was soooo sweet.
|Sometimes people will get you what you want, and sometimes not, but you don't have control over how other people spend their money, and it's rude to tell people what gifts to buy you and your kids. So you can either get upset that they don't buy what you would buy, or appreciate that your children have grandparents who love them and are trying to be kind and generous.
I never tell anyone what to buy (my family does do wish lists, but it's very clear that they're not a list of requirements, yk?). But, I wouldn't appreciate having people mock my kids for not "wanting everything". It's just so incredibly rude, and has nothing
to do with the spirit of giving, imo.