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Can you give me some reasssurance?

post #1 of 5
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My 9 mo DD is very high needs. She's very, very attached to her Daddy and I. We have always believed it's impossible to spoil a baby and have tried to meet her needs since birth - she's never CIO, slept alone or been denied attention when she needs/wants it.

The past few weeks have been really rough - she has 4 teeth coming in, has learned to stand and her sleep has gone to the pits. We are moving 1800 miles in 2 weeks and are pretty stressed trying to find a place to live remotely. The house is a mess, the cat is hysterical and my mother in law is landing in Florida in 5 days. Suffice it say, tensions are pretty high around here.

DD has been the Neediest Neederson from Needyville that you have ever seen. She cries if she is put down, if she hears me sneeze, if the moon is rising or the sun setting, all of which ends the minute she is picked up. Today my hubby asked if she still qualifies as a a baby, because he's worried she getting spoiled.

Sooo, what do you think? Can you spoil a 9 month old with attention? Are we doing her a disservice by responding every time she cries?
post #2 of 5
No, she is not being spoiled. A 9 month old is still definitely a baby. Especially if she is teething, and can sense your tension about the move, etc she is going to want/need extra attention.

Can you wear her while you are getting things done?
post #3 of 5
Argh, I feel for you. My babe is high needs but not as needy as your LO sounds, but I can understand where you're coming from and it's TOUGH going on the parents.

From my experience, ignoring my LO (i.e. not jumping the minute he starts fussing) only leads to more whining and neediness, so I try as hard as possible to respond immediately. I still wear him as much as I can and that really helps too.

DS only gets fussier if I don't respond immediately, so that tells me attention is good for his wellbeing. Has your DH read the Sear book "Parenting your Fussy Baby and High Needs Child?" It might make him feel more relaxed about it.
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Thanks for the book suggestion - I will check it out immediately! I know how we parent is right for our baby, but the past few weeks have been harder than usual. I was just praying as I nursed her to sleep for the clarity to realize this is just a phase, and no matter what, I am a blessed mama. Thanks for the support!
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Originally Posted by ps4624 View Post
Thanks for the book suggestion - I will check it out immediately! I know how we parent is right for our baby, but the past few weeks have been harder than usual. I was just praying as I nursed her to sleep for the clarity to realize this is just a phase, and no matter what, I am a blessed mama. Thanks for the support!
I say a similar prayer often.
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