Yay! I'm glad to hear it all turned out well!
When I was a single mama, I eventually found that my judgment *sucked* in the face of a beautiful man and came up with a hard and fast no compromising list for dating:
1) He has to have a car
2) He has to have a place to live- I was cool with roommates, but not living with the parents
3) He has to have a job- full-time, no "self-employed" or "farmers" or "carpenters" or "temp workers"
4) He has to have a driver's license
5) He must not have a criminal record
6) He has to have a phone
I would have been willing to give a bit on the car if I lived in a metro area and met a super-crunchy dude who did public transit/ biking for environmental reasons- but I don't, public transit here is a joke, and *I'm* really not *that* crunchy, so it likely wouldn't have been a good fit anyway!
Oh, and "farmer" and "carpenter" here is often code for "indoor pot grower"... I wouldn't have had an objection to someone really growing veggies or building houses!
Seriously, this list knocked out more guys than I care to remember! It was pathetic!
Best of luck OP!