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Poll Results: Have you ever given a hostess gift?

 
  • 83% (52)
    I have given one recently
  • 6% (4)
    I have never given one
  • 0% (0)
    I used to give them, but think it is old fashioned now
  • 9% (6)
    I wish I would GET hostess gifts
62 Total Votes  
post #21 of 26
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Originally Posted by clicksab View Post
I've never received one and I've never given one. Granted, most of the things I've been to are potlucks. I wonder how many women in my generation do hostess gifts though... I just turned 24. Unless it's a housewarming party or something, I didn't realize that was anything I should do! Now I feel embarrassed, lol.
I am 25 and also think it isn't done so much anymore. I was taught to not show up empty handed, but the situations I was taught that about were different. I mean, someone I don't see very often, yes. Someone invites us over for dinner, yes, a fancy party that someone put thought and effort into, sure. But that's not the kind of thing that happens much. Usually it's a bunch of kids, hanging out, just like we did in college. And since it's the same thing, only evolved from dorm rooms to houses and apartments, it is hard to imagine where the host/hostess giving would have started.

I still try to bring along a dish or gift once in a while, (although I am only one of 2 that does), and I think that as we all get older and have more traditional, rigid gatherings, the tradition may pick up.
post #22 of 26
Thread Starter 
Fantastic ideas for gifts everyone! I think it's fun to bring people presents.
Also in the Deep South we call them "happys". Whenvever you get someone an unexpected gift, or token of appreciation or hostess gift or anything along those lines we say, "I got you a Happy"! I love that saying, I think it's so appropriate. In fact, I just got a happy last night from my mil!
post #23 of 26
We generally take a bottle of home made wine if the host/hostess will appreciate that. He/she can use it then or save it for another time. If we are going to a party with a guest of honor, we take the gift for him/her.

Melinda
post #24 of 26
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Originally Posted by Sk8ermaiden View Post
I am 25 and also think it isn't done so much anymore. I was taught to not show up empty handed, but the situations I was taught that about were different. I mean, someone I don't see very often, yes. Someone invites us over for dinner, yes, a fancy party that someone put thought and effort into, sure. But that's not the kind of thing that happens much. Usually it's a bunch of kids, hanging out, just like we did in college. And since it's the same thing, only evolved from dorm rooms to houses and apartments, it is hard to imagine where the host/hostess giving would have started.

I still try to bring along a dish or gift once in a while, (although I am only one of 2 that does), and I think that as we all get older and have more traditional, rigid gatherings, the tradition may pick up.
When I was in my 20s, everyone brought a six pack or a bag of chips, or some such to that kind of get together. Fancy coasters, or cut flowers would have been a bit off for such an event, but we certainly didn't expect the host/hostess of the party/get together to provide all the alcohol and munchies.
post #25 of 26
I just turned 30 (if it matters) and always try to bring a hostess gift. Usually just some pretty flowers or something simple (and edible!).
post #26 of 26
I am almost 43. I vote I have never given a hostess gift. I'm not quite sure that is true, because I did take a bottle of wine to a party once, but I think that was technically a birthday celebration.

I don't really go to parties. When I was growing up, it seemed like things were pretty no nonsense. I understand the concept of dinner parties and the like, but we just never did these things in our family. We would go to birthday parties as children, and of course we'd bring a present. The parties were very proscribed--you dressed nicely, brought a gift, ate cake and ice cream, played pin-the-tail on the donkey and left with a hat and blower. Parents didn't come, you went when you were old enough to know how to behave, and these parties were pretty much done by the time you were 9 or 10 years old.

Sometimes we'd have family over for Thanksgiving, and people would bring dishes for the dinner. Or maybe a backyard cookout, and someone might bring chips or beer that they wanted to drink (my parents didn't drink). In general we didn't go out to eat but maybe once or twice a year, we barely went into people's homes let alone go there for dinner. I know my parents did some socializing with my mom's sorority, but the kids were left out of that, and they were usually going to a public place, so there was no bringing of a gift.

The idea of going to a party and bringing a hostess gift is just something that seems like it's for people in books, or something. Like for people in a different social strata than the one we were in. Plus, when I've wanted to bring something, like a bottle of wine (which I've heard of people doing when they are invited to dinner, that seems normal) or a gourmet kind of treat, I'd be afraid that the person would not like what I was bringing and wonder why I was bringing it. If they didn't serve it, I'd think it meant they didn't like it, but then I wouldn't know if I was supposed to serve something given to me as a gift, or if that would be considered offensive. It seems like a potential minefield and kind of scary to me.

But now that I know it is so common, maybe I'll think about this more. Not that I go to parties.

I think part of this is that I grew up with parents who were both raised during the Depression. I have nieces my age who have Baby Boomer parents, and their experiences are a little different. I guess it's not necessarily an age thing, but just a custom thing, and I'm not really familiar with the custom.
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