Can you understand that one might interfere with the other? That when you have relatives who, when not given explicit boundaries, spend themselves halfway into massive debt so that there are piles of presents that take the entire day to open, that that might actually influence your ability to maintain other traditions, like playing a game together or going for a walk in the snow?
The really sad part? Dh and I got one single gift from the two of us to her. It was wrapped and had traveled all over waiting for us to have a private moment to let her open it. It never happened. She never even noticed that there was not a gift from us. It did not matter anyway. My sister had gotten her the same gift (I did not know) and she had opened it earlier. So, I tucked it away to return once we got home. I had every intention of replacing it with another gift, but it seemed sort of pointless. She did not notice that we did not give her one and we were already struggling with finding places for the stuff she got. Adding to it was not a good thing.
I cannot explain how sad and MAD I was that the experience was taken away from us One gift. We wanted to give our own child one gift. I know it was not done on purpose and our families would be mortified if they knew this happened. But it is what it is and I feel powerless to change it.