Originally Posted by beingmommy
Thanks for all the replies. I do not know why my DS has these allergies. I have asthma but other than that allergies do not run in our families very much. My DH's brother was allergic to milk as a baby but outgrew it very quickly (and there were 7 kids in that family and none of of the others OR any of their children have had any food allergies).You may want to read Kenneth Bock's book Healing the new Childhood Epidemics: Autism, ADHD, Asthma and Allergies
Bock links these as different manifestations of similar underlying causes, including things like toxic load, gut health and inflammation. My kids' food intolerances and other issues are related to toxic load from me (and partly me from my mom, this goes back quite a way in my family), so his book really spoke to me. My two kids manifest our issues very, very differently.
But my DS has two of the least outgrown allergies. Makes me sad. I thought we did everything right. Natural birth. No vaxes. Exclusive Bfing. Delayed solids (and then my DS delayed some more by refusing them until he was over a year old). It's not just the decisions we make, there are factors at work beyond our control. Although I think there are often things we can do, for me there have been far far more than I would've ever considered a few years ago, we really don't have absolute control.
He did have antobiotics when he was 3.5 months old for a UTI. So maybe that was it.
He just seems to be the unlucky one in the family. He had a tongue tie at birth and we had 6 months of terrible BFing problems (still he never got one drop of formula). He also has a wicked speech delay. Weak enamel on his teeth (5 cavities so far!). Asthma. And he has always been very high need. I think some on my DH's side of the family think I am doing something wrong. At least it is starting to be implied since everyone else in the family is "perfect".
Tongue ties can be related to nutritional issues, I've read of them due to being low on folate (related to detoxification, among other things) and vitamin A. Really, you may want to visit the Allergies forum, we've had interesting discussions on _why_ our kids have allergies (lots of different answers, it's not all amalgams, and it's not all detoxification issues, although detoxification extends beyond just heavy metals). I'm really not a blame-the-mom type, especially given our issues, but looking at my health, combined with the kids, and throwing in DH's genes, a LOT more makes sense now. It's not my fault, but in terms of dealing with the cards we're dealt, assuming my health and the kids' symptoms are related, and then trying to figure out how, has been enormously helpful.