How should I approach this?

[honey3]

My DH started a new job not too long ago, and works with a girl who is expecting her first child (a boy, due in January). I went to DH's work a couple of weeks ago, and ended up chittchatting with her for a little while. Since it was the very first time I met her, we obviously didn't talk about anything too serious. (The whole time I was thinking about whether or not she was going to circ. though , as that's all I ever think about when I know someone's having a boy).

Anyhow, DH called me on his lunch today and told me that he found a note on the girls desk. She left work early to interview a pediatrician, and left the note behind. It said "what do I need to get for circ?" and "will you do the circumcision yourself?".

Ugh. I already felt so compelled before to say something, and definitely do now.

DH's work is having a Holiday party soon, and I'm pretty sure we're sitting at the same table as her. There's obviously going to be a ton of people around, and I don't want to make things super awkward (especially for DH at work, seeing as he doesn't know her super well either). Still, I know I need to say something. I don't think the Holiday party is a good time at all to bring the subject up, but I'm not sure when I would see her again and have the opportunity to. I know she has a Facebook, so maybe I could send her a message or something?

What do you think I should say, and how/when would you bring it up?

[emnic77]

I like the "you know, I'm only saying something because I'm SO GLAD someone told me when I was pregnant because I had NO IDEA!! I don't know if you're considering circumcision or not but we were until..."etc etc. That way you can get your "in" without being all "So, you're thinking of circumcising." I play it off like it's something I was totally ignorant about until a helpful person showed me the light while I was pregnant. I feel like that makes you not come across as a know-it-all (and by the time you start slamming them with info and they figure out you're a know-it-all about the subject, they're already involved in the conversation.

That's my method, and it's worked a couple times

[Fellow Traveler]

That's a really difficult situation since you don't know each other at all and would be an awkward conversation at a holiday party. Having said that the previous poster's suggestion is perhaps the most appropriate if you wanted to give it a shot. Perhaps recall your experience with your son along the way.

[SlackerDad]

Definitely a tough one. According to all conventional social norms, you shouldn't say anything at all. But at the same time, it's hard to avoid giving it a shot when something this important is on the line.

What about giving her a combined holiday/baby present of a Dr. Sears' Baby Book? You could tell her you highlighted/bookmarked some of the parts you found most valuable, and obviously include his section on circumcision.